We are WOMEN and it is in our DNA to juggle all balls at once (while keeping our manicure perfect). We aren’t supposed to get overwhelmed, no no no, we are supposed to handle it all cooly.
Well, we were going along smoothly, everything on track …then the dog got sick! That meant no sleep, we mean NO sleep. Oh well, life happens. Dog is now A-OK but in the meantime our schedule went to (excuse the pun) the dogs!
So, here’s a “Vintage Burnout Queens” newsletter that really hits the mark!
Royally Overwhelmed??? Get a manicure.
In the past we would have hidden being overwhelmed and attempted to look like we were handling it all effortlessly. Those days are done! We admit it, we own it, this IS royally overwhelming!
So why on earth as women do we fall victim to the epic myth that we should be unbothered and unflappable? In other words, we should never get overwhelmed because, after all, that means (wait for it!) we can’t cope! Well, it’s all in the training to be a Burnout Queen!
I don’t know about you, but when I got overwhelmed as a little girl, it would be tears and stomping, pouting and sulking, or maybe throwing a ‘hissy fit’. Although incredibly annoying or embarrassing for Mum, it was completely appropriate as a kid’s coping style. Unfortunately, and maybe for you as well, expressing my overwhelm as a child would herald responses like: “You are ‘too’ emotional and too sensitive; stop whining and whingeing; you’re being a cry-baby, or a ‘princess’ (good for me on the way to becoming a Queen!) or you are being overly dramatic”. I regularly heard, “Surely it’s not that bad”. Well yes sometimes it was!
Here’s the Burnout Queen’s declaration!
There is absolutely nothing uncool with getting overwhelmed!
Whether from too many changes, too many decisions, too many details to juggle, too many emotions, competing timelines or deadlines or multiple life problems, there is nothing wrong with being overwhelmed. Au contraire, it takes strength, confidence, and personal power to acknowledge and accept that there are times when it all just gets to you.
Being overwhelmed simply means you are being temporarily bombarded by ‘too’ many feelings and thoughts all at once. It doesn’t mean you are weak, incompetent, stupid, unable to cope, or a personal failure.
Getting overwhelmed simply means you’re human.
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Keep these few things in mind the next time you feel overwhelmed…there will be a next time, it’s natural.
- Make no decisions on one hours sleep! (That’s a Burnout Queen rule).
- Ignore all middle of the night catastrophic mind chatter: 3am disasters look very different at 6am! (If that is not a rule, it should be).
- Focus on what is real for you. Do not let others’ opinions or advice rush you.
Remember, you are strong, directed, highly creative and sensitive. You care deeply about your life, you take things seriously and you want to get it right. It’s just that sometimes you can’t, but it’s not you… it’s life. From time to time this means being overwhelmed and that can feel decidedly uncool.
At times fear, pressure or time overshadows clarity, but you are a Burnout Queen and that means that you will find the most creative, ‘uniquely you’ solution to whatever challenges life throws your way. In the meantime…
Here’s one great tip:
Stand up, declare it and own it! I’m overwhelmed! Now, while you are still standing…Eat chocolate, go shopping, and get a manicure! (How did that get there?)!
What’s New
The Burnout Queens ‘Essential Classes’ are being launched! Each one is a great addition to your resource library, not to mention your sanity! First up…
Get the Skinny on Burnout!
Are you ready to take your first step towards living a burnout-free lifestyle?
Well, creative-one, this is exactly where you need to start! Our fabulous and super-reasonable 3-video ‘essential’ class is your fundamental step to becoming a Burnout Queen…strong, resilient, enthusiastic and powerful.
What’s not to love about that!
Read about it here: http://theburnoutqueens.com/get-the-skinny-on-burnout/
Next class waiting in the wings: Have You Been Raised & Trained to Burn Out? (What do you think…have you?) Watch for an announcement shortly.
Until next time…Grab Life by the Crown!
