Talk It Up & Shout It Out! | Let people know just how great you are.

Are you good at acknowledging your accomplishments?  How about your strengths and gifts?  No?  Well, it’s time to get BOLD BOLD BOLD and honest about how great you are!  (Felt you cringe.)  You know, many of us were raised and trained to be modest; no bragging or being conceited allowed.   Not even in school where you are supposed to develop your gifts were you allowed to shout out the answer when you knew or rush to be first in line.

So guess that when it comes to being an adult it stands to reason that you are simply not comfortable blowing your own horn or proclaiming your own praises.  You have to ask,“Where does that get you?” Answer:  Absolutely nowhere.  Yes, it’s definitely time for a change.

It just doesn’t pay to be shy, and we mean that quite literally.  You are not going to get the promotions or the pay rises if you can’t talk-up or shout-out your accomplishments, achievements, abilities, capabilities, strengths, and greatness.  And we know, my dear, that you have all of those in abundance!  Taking centre stage may not be the most comfortable thing you do, but…well…get over it.

You are a Burnout Queen and it is time to own your throne!

(mind chatter: what if the other kids won’t like me? I’ll be left sitting all alone at recess…I meant coffee break…really I meant coffee break!) 

It’s a dilemma.  We want others to see us for who we are.  We want to be acknowledged for our hard work, our good results, our leadership, our great people skills, but we are also people pleasers and want others to ‘like’ us.

If we can’t stand up and proclaim loudly, boldly, confidently, how absolutely fabulous we are why do we expect others to notice or care?

Just the other day one of my fab VIP clients said she was ecstatic that she had finally learned to “shamelessly promote herself”.  (Those words are music to my ears!)  And the outcome?  One word… promotion!  Our message is getting out there.  Another Exec client ‘bragged’ to me that she had told her boss that “she was the expert” in her area!  You bet she is, time he knew it and valued it as well!

So, what has this got to do with burnout?  Easy peasy.

Burnout is hiding just around the corner if you continue pretending you are less than you are!

It’s all about your beliefs and your attitude.  AND, it’s about what you do.  Time to set yourself a goal to step over all the obstacles in your path that stop you from sharing your fabulous self with the world.  Go ahead and make a list of your strengths, talents, successes, and accomplishments.  Pop it right into your queenly handbag, backpack, diaper bag, or briefcase.  Next time you are on the verge of being modest, get your crown on straight, read your list, and step up to take your place!

You have some pretty amazing qualities.  You are great at what you do.  You have fabulous, outside of the box, ideas.  You are not afraid of hard work.  We know it, you know it.  Now let the rest of the world know it!  Time to talk it up and shout it out!

Hello from Lewes & London! 13 January 2018

Hello from London & Lewes

Everyone is moaning about getting their goals together, making their yearly plans, and getting stuck into the hustle and bustle of the new year.   We just thought you might like to look at things a little differently, you know slow it down a bit and catch your breath.

Our first edition of Hello is not about the goals, it’s all about the ‘moment’

Every time either one of us goes out or even stays in the comfort of the house, there are just moments that make a difference (if you allow them to eliminate the buzz).  .

They aren’t big moments, or tiny moments, but they are everyday moments that always count. Here are some of ours!

It really was a Christmas card moment! (waiting for my pizza take-away)

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They’re our cute moment! (they don’t even try being cute, just are)

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Walkie moments! (nothing better than bells at high noon on the high street clock, and babbling waters in the riverside café)

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Don’t forget the Art moments! (it was more about the architecture than the art)

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The town’s history moments! (1300 – 1500 and we wonder who stood here)

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New Year moment! (‘boys’ playing in the castle grounds, yikes one is our neighbour)

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None of these are big moments, but they definitely warm our heart, make us smile, inspire us, peak our curiosity, and just take us away from it all for a while.

Until next month, wishing you meaningful ‘moments’ too!


The Burnout Queens | Dr Toby and Dr Bev

Hello from Lewes & London! 9 December 2017

Hello from London & Lewes

November just flew past and here we are on the countdown to the Festive Season!  I cannot believe that our next issue will be coming to you in 2018 (can you imagine that).

This edition has the Holiday Ho, Ho theme. This isn’t the happiest of times for The Burnout Queens, but we make every effort to bring joy through beauty and creativity in small everyday ways.  That said, London’s Piccadilly and Bond Streets always fit the brief (and are delightful and free if you keep your wallet in your handbag)!

Fortnum & Mason department store never disappoints. From the moment the doorman opens the doors (yes they have uniformed doormen), we are transported into a bedazzling holiday experience, from specialty foods to tree decorations galore.


And the tree decorations didn’t stop at little soldiers, reindeers and baubles…no F&M’s tea theme was over the top (and you know The Burnout Queens and tea)!



And then there is always the scrumptious Jellied section that I can never resist visiting any time of year (yes Santa, you can really eat these sugar plum delights).

A quick walk up to Bond Street (as you do) and Ralph Lauren’s windows stopped us in our tracks. The best subtle creativity of brand we’ve seen since arriving eight Christmas’s ago.


Alas, all sparkly visits must come to an end, but not before walking back to the train through a beautifully decorated ‘arcade’.  Just makes our day in London complete.

Even in our little town there are sweet and quirky ways to celebrate the countdown…and this is our excuse to always stop for tea, pastry and a friendly chat at our favourite little ‘tea shop’ (Lewes Patisserie).

This weekend we’ll be putting up the window and tree decorations. Don’t know about you, but it can be a stressful event.  Me thinks it wise to return to Lewes Patisserie to clear the head (another great excuse).

To all our Holiday Angels, we hope you find Beauty.

Peace & Love xx

The Burnout Queens | Dr Toby and Dr Bev

Travelling tips for our executive clients

We have a few of our Highly Sensitive Executives either in-flight or just returning from Conference Season in all parts of the globe.  It’s not uncommon these days to hop the globe, a continent, or many continents all in one go.  The time changes can be challenging to say the least.

We found this great ‘tips’ article in The Daily Telegraph’s Lifestyle section that may be just what these ‘doctors’ ordered as a good way to curb jetlag and still be sane at the end of your business obligations.

Enjoy and fly safe!

The Burnout Queens xx

READ THE ARTICLE HERE:  7 ways to outsmart jet lag.

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