DO YOU HAVE A BURNOUT PERSONALITY? (aka your BOP FACTOR)
Are you ready to discover if you have a Burnout Personality? Also known as the BOP Factor as we like to call it. Read on…
We all have certain characteristics we were born with that form a significant part of our temperament and personality. Taken one at a time these characteristics are amazingly wonderful. In fact, they are like a gift and can give you tremendous resilience and strength. However, if you don’t pay attention to what you need, want, desire or dream of these same characteristics can wear you down and wear you out. So now, The Bop Factor. Let’s get into it.
You are not out of energy, exhausted and stressed because you:
- are weak,
- can’t cope,
- can’t handle stress,
- are a loser,
- or a failure.
You do, however, have a ‘Be All and Do All Personality’ that can put you on the direct route to Burnout.
You try to BE everything to everybody and DO everything for everybody and do it all yourself!
Simply knowing about your BOP Factor can change how you feel about yourself and how you approach your life. We are quite serious about this. Knowing how your BOP characteristics are inter-woven with each other, how you inherited some of them and learned others, how they work for you and against you can absolutely change your life.
Without further adieu, here is the foundation of your Burnout Personality, your BOP factor:
You are reliable, dependable, conscientious, responsible & trustworthy.
You pride yourself on endurance, persistence, drive, tenacity and strength. You have stick-to-it-ness!
You are more comfortable giving than receiving.
You always want to do the ‘right’ thing.
You are passionate, compassionate, empathic & sympathetic.
You are highly sensitive, creative, perceptive and have great intuition (when you listen to it!)
You are a caring, helpful, supportive, cooperative, loyal and a dedicated nurturer.
Now there are a few qualities that are cringe worthy. No doubt you will recognise some of them but no judgements allowed!
You are a people pleaser.
You rarely feel ‘good enough’ .
You have really high standards for yourself and keep raising the bar higher and higher.
You work like a maniac.
You are a perfectionist!
You feel the need to prove yourself.
You are a perfectionist!
And, last but not least…
You have a YES habit.
That my lovelies is the BOP Factor. When they work against you they put you at risk for burning out. We certainly don’t want this for you because burnout robs you of energy, happiness, and your zest for living. Burnout affects your relationships, your health, your career and your success. Ultimately you lose your drive, motivation, belief in yourself, passion and your spirit.
But, big but, when your BOP characteristics work for you we are talking peak performance. They make you a passionate doer and truthfully the planet needs more of those. The key is knowing how to embrace them, express them and direct the energy and intensity that comes with having such a strong personality. That’s the power that comes with being a Burnout Queen.
P.S. To put it into a context, here are 4 examples of how your BOP Factor can get in the way:
#1: Being a perfectionist means you live in the future. You are always looking ahead to what you can do better, differently, or tweak a bit.
Result: You never find peace, contentment, satisfaction or success NOW.
#2: You live in a land of ‘shoulds, ought to’s, and musts. You do what everyone else thinks is the ‘right’ thing for you to do.
Result: You end up living a compromise, instead of doing what you want, living your dreams.You end up always feeling guilty about something.
#3: Bell rings, you jump. Others expect a lot from you and you always try to meet those expectations. If you don’t, you berate yourself for not being helpful enough, understanding enough or just plain old good enough.
Result: You end up pulled in too many directions. Over-being and over-doing everything for everybody.
#4: You end up silenced by your own strengths. Your need to prove yourself, to do everything well, coupled with the fact that you are so good at what you do.
Result: Other people simply expect your success. They assume nothing is too much for you and you can handle anything and everything whether you want to or not.
With love, Dr Toby & Dr Bev (aka The Burnout Queens) xx