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Late For An Important Date?

January 20, 2016

If you are a woman always struggling to show up on time, this is for you.

We know you are juggling so many balls in the air that it’s often hard to fit everything into your day. Quite often you may find yourself running late. More often you overbook your day because you are busy running around for everyone else in your life (in which case, we need to talk). You may even want to re-acquaint yourself with Dr B’s post September 10th, 2015 about her client’s struggle with time.

But fear not dear one, The Burnout Queens have a Contingency System designed for you. Between your bookings, jobs, school run, clients, meetings, and any blank space in your diary think…

20 30 40 50 or 60 MINUTE INTERVALS

The result? Travel time, shifting gears, grabbing lunch, finding your breath…all sorted. Who knows, you may even have time for a quiet cuppa and cake (a Burnout Queens must-do)!

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

If You Are A No Show Alert, Alert!

January 19, 2016

What do you do when a client doesn’t show up for the second time in the month and it was booked and rebooked?

You have a choice. As a sensitive and creative therapist/coach in the past I would have been flexible to the point of giving in to the non-existent structure of the client. And of course, to keep the client’s business.

Now, I perceive the constant ‘no show’ as a sign that motivation is gone for this client, and my time and energy invested with my heart and training is not taken seriously, nor deemed worth much!

So the choice…new rules learned over the years is to give clients a 15 minute window of lateness and then get on with things. No sense chasing around after someone who is not able (nor wants) to be caught.

We have a motto in our business based on an old commercial in the US: ‘catch you now, or catch you later’ and it has always been spot on. If it’s not the client’s time, it won’t happen, but when it is…they will be back!

I am sure that many highly sensitive and smart women in business give clients the extra, extra mile and ‘do’ the right thing by their clientele. Ladies, ‘do’ the right thing by your own self. Stretching too far sometimes means you loosen too much of your self and self-respect.

Evolution. Dr Bev (The Burnout Queens) xx

Be The Woman You Were Meant To Be!

December 19, 2015

Are you ready? Are you ready to step out into the world as the authentic powerful, sensitive and creative woman you are? Well, my Darlings, the world is ready and waiting for you!

It’s time! It’s time to stand strong in who you are and stop pretending you are less! It’s time for you to shout it to the world…

“It’s COOL to be ME!”

The world needs you! You have an obligation to share your brilliance with the world so that the rest of us can grow in wisdom, depth, compassion and understanding.

When you embrace your strengths, talents, and gifts you contribute to the world.
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Whenever you are true to yourself you inspire others. You inspire your family, your friends, and your colleagues. In fact, you can be an inspiration to anyone you connect with. Everyone has something unique to offer and by living your own unique truth you give others the courage to do the same.

In an everyday spiritual kind of way you are inspirational just being yourself.
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So we have to ask…Do you keep parts of yourself secreted away? Do you hide, discredit, minimise or deny your true gifts? It’s time for you to own your truth and be clear about what you have to offer!

So, there is no more time for excuses! It’s time for you to value your talents, gifts and strengths and it’s definitely time for you to share your beliefs, ideas, and opinions! When you do you will be amazed at how opportunities and possibilities open up in your life.

Now, maybe up to this point you haven’t been comfortable about giving the gift of being yourself to yourself, but we know you are very good at doing for others or you wouldn’t be a Burnout Queen! So here’s the thing…with more and more opportunities in your own life you have more ways to touch others, open doors for them, encourage them and lift them up! Now that feels really good.

The clock is about to strike midnight on the year, but it’s never too late! In fact, it is always the perfectly right time to be the woman you were meant to be. Get ready to stand up bravely and boldly and say…

Hey World…this is ME!
And it’s COOL to be ME!

We love you Burnout Queens! Let the world know how great you are! It’s time to show up in your life…crown and all!

PS. The BOQs would love to hear from you! Leave your wisdom and comments in the box below.

PPS! Introducing The Burnout Queens Christmas Chaos Charity Campaign 2015. This year we have a gift for you and a matched donation to WaterAid to uplift a young girl in a disadvantaged part of the world. Win-win! You get to conquer the dreaded holiday family gatherings once and for all, and a young girl gets a darn good education. Now that’s the holiday spirit Burnout Queen style! Join our Campaign here…

https://theburnoutqueens.com/christmas-chaos/

Can’t Keep Your Antlers Straight?

December 17, 2015

Can’t keep your antlers straight?…

You might just be in the Loop! That’s the B-Loop we’re talking about. What’s the B-Loop? Well my dears… B is for Burnout!

The holiday season is defined by stress and pressure: TV ads with sparkling lights and happy happy families, perfect dinners, happy families, mounds of presents, did we mention happy families?!!!

It’s enough to give you the chills! But you are a Burnout Queen so when the pressure hits you get going!

You vow you will..

dig in and push harder
achieve more
write more lists, check them twice (no make that 10 times!)
make double the shortbread
plan the perfect Holiday menu
craft like a crazy lady
buy more lights for the house (the neighbours doubled theirs!)
get more prezzies for the kids, musn’t disappoint
create the perfect decorating scheme
and get a reindeer for the front lawn (note to self make that a real one!)

Don’t look up you’re not done! You…

need to paint the guestroom, (it’s tired)
order the new sofa in time for the neighbourhood party
find the perfect dress for the office party (not too sexy not too prim)
make the Christmas pageant costumes (1 angel, 2 shepherds)
lose the extra weight by the holidays
and love your in-laws by Dec 24!

Welcome to the B-Loop! It’s a slippery slope with or without snow!

Burnout Queens think it’s normal to be in the Loop! We don’t recognise the pattern. Well, now you can! It looks like this…

stress >> dig in >> do more>> achieve less>> stress >>push harder

You live in the Loop with a smile on your face, you make it look easy and no one knows you are skating on thin ice! And because you make it look so easy-peasy everyone just expects you to do it all again…and again…and again…

Next year it will be different! We’ve heard that before, but now it can! Stick with us Darling Burnout Queens and we will show you how to get out of the Loop and stay out!

Join us inside The Realm and see how other women are escaping the Loop. What a gift! (Click here to become a free member instantly)

Until next time…sparkle! Dr Toby, The Burnout Queens xx

Hello from Brighton & London: 5 November 2015

December 5, 2015

Falling leaves, gusty winds and holiday decorations can only mean goodbye Autumn and hello December Madness. The Burnout Pups love running shoulder deep through piles of leaves, squirrel spotting (codename ‘ducks’ so they don’t run after them), and of course showing their proper respect for Remembrance Day.

As for The Burnout Queens, we ‘went to the theatre’ to enjoy the Theatre Royal’s beauty, great music, and dance (Priscilla Queen of the Desert & The Last Tango what fun).

It’s always exciting to hop the train into London, especially when we discover the unexpected along the way. On this trip, a street market in upscale Chelsea. It definitely put us in the mood for holiday shopping at the Physic Garden Christmas Fair, but not enough to try the roasted chestnuts…maybe next year!

Speaking of Christmas, we’ve been told our seaside city holds quite a few quirky seasonal festivities in December… but you will have to wait until our next edition to see them.

Until 2016… Embrace Life!

PS: Darling, come join our Christmas Chaos Charity Champaign 2015 for WaterAid. You get a fabulous gift to destress the holidays and we donate the proceeds to give girls an education instead of trekking for water. A true gift of giving in The Burnout Queen’s style.

https://theburnoutqueens.com/christmas-chaos/