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If You Are A No Show Alert, Alert!

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What do you do when a client doesn’t show up for the second time in the month and it was booked and rebooked?

You have a choice. As a sensitive and creative therapist/coach in the past I would have been flexible to the point of giving in to the non-existent structure of the client. And of course, to keep the client’s business.

Now, I perceive the constant ‘no show’ as a sign that motivation is gone for this client, and my time and energy invested with my heart and training is not taken seriously, nor deemed worth  much!

So the choice…new rules learned over the years is to give clients a 15 minute window of lateness and then get on with things.  No sense chasing around after someone who is not able (nor wants) to be caught.

We have a motto in our business based on an old commercial in the US:  ‘catch you now, or catch you later’ and it has always been spot on.  If it’s not the client’s time, it won’t happen, but when it is…they will be back!

I am sure that many highly sensitive and smart women in business give clients the extra, extra mile and ‘do’ the right thing by their clientele.    Ladies, ‘do’ the right thing by your own self.  Stretching too far sometimes means you loosen too much of your self and self-respect.

Evolution.  Dr Bev (The Burnout Queens) xx

Be The Woman You Were Meant To Be!

Be The Woman You Were Meant To Be! Authentic and Cool!

Are you ready?  Are you ready to step out into the world as the authentic powerful, sensitive and creative woman you are?  Well, my Darlings, the world is ready and waiting for you!

It’s time!  It’s time to stand strong in who you are and stop pretending you are less!  It’s time for you to shout it to the world…

“It’s COOL to be ME!”

The world needs you!  You have an obligation to share your brilliance with the world so that the rest of us can grow in wisdom, depth, compassion and understanding.

When you embrace your strengths, talents, and gifts you contribute to the world.
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Whenever you are true to yourself you inspire others.  You inspire your family, your friends, and your colleagues.  In fact, you can be an inspiration to anyone you connect with.  Everyone has something unique to offer and by living your own unique truth you give others the courage to do the same.

In an everyday spiritual kind of way you are inspirational just being yourself.
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So we have to ask…Do you keep parts of yourself secreted away?  Do you hide, discredit, minimise or deny your true gifts?  It’s time for you to own your truth and be clear about what you have to offer!

So, there is no more time for excuses!  It’s time for you to value your talents, gifts and strengths and it’s definitely time for you to share your beliefs, ideas, and opinions!  When you do you will be amazed at how opportunities and possibilities open up in your life.

Now, maybe up to this point you haven’t been comfortable about giving the gift of being yourself to yourself, but we know you are very good at doing for others or you wouldn’t be a Burnout Queen!  So here’s the thing…with more and more opportunities in your own life you have more ways to touch others, open doors for them, encourage them and lift them up! Now that feels really good.

The clock is about to strike midnight on the year, but it’s never too late!  In fact, it is always the perfectly right time to be the woman you were meant to be.  Get ready to stand up bravely and boldly and say…

Hey World…this is ME!
And it’s COOL to be ME!

We love you Burnout Queens!  Let the world know how great you are!  It’s time to show up in your life…crown and all! 

Love, Dr Toby & Dr Bev xx

PS.  The BOQs would love to hear from you!  Leave your wisdom and comments in the box below.

PPS!  Introducing The Burnout Queens Christmas Chaos Charity Campaign 2015.  This year we have a gift for you and a matched donation to WaterAid to uplift a young girl in a disadvantaged part of the world.  Win-win!  You get to conquer the dreaded holiday family gatherings once and for all,  and a young girl gets a darn good education.  Now that’s the holiday spirit Burnout Queen style!  Join our Campaign here…

It’s Beginning to Look A Lot Like Chaos!

https://theburnoutqueens.com/christmas-chaos/

Can’t Keep Your Antlers Straight?

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Can’t keep your antlers straight?…

You might just be in the Loop! That’s the B-Loop we’re talking about.  What’s the B-Loop?  Well my dears… B is for Burnout!

The holiday season is defined by stress and pressure: TV ads with sparkling lights and happy happy families, perfect dinners, happy families, mounds of presents, did we mention happy families?!!!

It’s enough to give you the chills! But you are a Burnout Queen so when the pressure hits you get going!

You vow you will..

  • dig in and push harder
  • achieve more
  • write more lists, check them twice (no make that 10 times!)
  • make double the shortbread
  • plan the perfect Holiday menu
  • craft like a crazy lady
  • buy more lights for the house (the neighbours doubled theirs!)
  • get more prezzies for the kids, musn’t disappoint
  • create the perfect decorating scheme
  • and get a reindeer for the front lawn (note to self make that a real one!)

Don’t look up you’re not done!  You…

  • need to paint the guestroom, (it’s tired)
  • order the new sofa in time for the neighbourhood party
  • find the perfect dress for the office party (not too sexy not too prim)
  • make the Christmas pageant costumes (1 angel, 2 shepherds)
  • lose the extra weight by the holidays
  • and love your in-laws by Dec 24!

Welcome to the B-Loop!  It’s a slippery slope with or without snow!

Burnout Queens think it’s normal to be in the Loop! We don’t recognise the pattern.  Well, now you can!  It looks like this…

stress >> dig in >> do more>> achieve less>> stress >>push harder

You live in the Loop with a smile on your face, you make it look easy and no one knows you are skating on thin ice!  And because you make it look so easy-peasy everyone just expects you to do it all again…and again…and again…

Next year it will be different!  We’ve heard that before, but now it can!   Stick with us Darling Burnout Queens and we will show you how to get out of the Loop and stay out!

Join us inside The Realm and see how other women are escaping the Loop.  What a gift!  (Click here to become a free member instantly)

Until next time…sparkle!   Dr Toby, The Burnout Queens xx

 

Afternoon Tea in The Realm: Defying Ordinary!

Afternoon Tea & Talk in The RealmJust this past Friday, Dr Toby and I (Dr Bev) sat down at the dining table over a pot of tea and macarons (delish) while we filmed a video for our ladies in The Realm!

Our Afternoon Tea in The Realm discussion was…Defy Ordinary and what that means to you.

 

 

 

Half an hour of sipping, chatting, taking questions and sharing really fabulous opinions about how highly sensitive, creative and smart women can start defying ordinary in their own unique ways.

 

Next month’s topic already picked and it will start the New Year off on a high note.  Can’t wait to get our member’s opinions on this one.

If you’d like to join us, membership inside The Realm is free, it’s inspiring, it’s supportive and we’d love you to join us.   Your membership begins here:  The Realm

See you inside,  The Burnout Queens xx

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