The Burnout Queens are celebrating International Woman’s Day today, with a tribute to our pasts, our present and the wish of a brighter future for our next generation of girls and women across the globe.
Love, The Burnout Queens xx
Be Calm
Wateraid gives us feedback on caring
How absolutely lovely to receive a note from Water Aid on Mothering Sunday in the UK.
Great to know our Christmas Chaos Charity Campaign gifts of taps and bog cement is making a difference in a village birthing centre in Tanzania.
Just a special feeling and moment to know we all helped in a very small but powerful way in other womens’ lives on this planet. Embracing all your kindness and generosity this year.
Love, The Burnout Queens xx
HSP woman wants to build a wall
Yes I do, I want to build a wall!
Please don’t confuse me with that guy running for US president, but I actually do want to build a wall. You see, there’s just too much going on these days, and it’s driving me crazy. It’s grating on my nerves, making me irritable, and generally intruding on all my senses.
So what’s going on you ask? Open plan living! You know living, dining, terrace and kitchen all-in-one. Very hip, very modern, very NOW. So when I initially saw my new flat I was excited with possibilities. In my zest to decorate the space in my head, I neglected to consider how noisy it might become.
When I clock off work, I’m ready for my evening to begin. As a highly sensitive woman, there’s nothing more soothing than a little dim lighting, low hum and watching a bit of television while I get dinner. Well, my gorgeously decorated open living space doesn’t deliver…I want to build a wall!
As a highly sensitive woman yourself, can you guess where I’m going with this? The gas stove is on (noise), the fan for the stove is on (noise), the fridge is opening and closing (noise), the dinner is being prepared, chop, chop, chop (more noise), the water is being poured into saucepans (double noise), the microwave is beeping (noise) and the television is on (turned ever higher to actually hear the news or show, making it noise over the top). And don’t even get me started on the Burnout Pups playing ball, barking and generally under foot because work is done and playtime is NOW for them (and I’m not even going to start with the noise of after-dinner cleanup and the dishwasher)!
Humming, banging, barking, bright lights, clanking pots and running water… my now over-aroused and jangled system yearns for that beautifully quiet evening of rest and relaxation.
Suffice to say open plan living for this highly sensitive woman is not a match made in heaven. So I want to build a wall and call the space on the other side ‘my kitchen’. Old fashioned maybe, quiet most definitely!
Anyone else feel my pain?!?
Love, The Burnout Queens xx
Divine Madness | Love Your Work!
The Burnout Queens love Love; big Love, small Love, puppy Love! Of course we are talking about Love today, check the date! (There are times we love to be predictable!) In past years we’ve ‘done’ Love (with a capital L), we’ve definitely talked about self-love and yes we have even explored the steamy kind, but love of work, loving what you do, is not necessarily the dot that gets connected to hearts and flowers.
Plato referred to love as ‘divine madness’ and Freud believed that two of the most important aspects of life were love and work. So is it madness to believe you need to love your work to be healthy and happy? The Burnout Queens don’t think so!
We have a very real need to love what we do… our work, the product, our art, our contribution and our success.
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If we connect love with work we should expect big moments of passion, true calling, momentous insights, or at least a big ‘kissy fest’ with our colleagues all the time…right? Not necessarily so.
It can be a challenge to notice signs, big or small, of the kind of love that means your work is engaging your soul. These signs often hide in the everyday, the mundane, the tedious and the commonplace. So what exactly are you looking for?
Well, when you work with mindfulness you begin to identify signs of loving what you do: a moment of pride for a well done job; a rush of warmth, understanding or caring toward a co-worker; the comfortable familiarity of an everyday task; the old books on the shelves in the boardroom; taking a moment to ‘see’ the painting you love on your office wall, the view outside your window; knowing you are doing ‘good’ work or providing for your life and family.
Here are some moments of love in my work:
 | Typing this draft with my soul-dog on my lap (not great for my posture but fab for my heart), |
| Receiving a ‘Hello here’s what I’m up to!’ from a long-ago (but never forgotten) client, |
| Having an ‘ah hah moment’ when two seemingly diverse ideas collide and become something new...BIG LOVE! |
| Writing that flows from the heart. |
| A hot cup of tea and biscuit on the corner of my desk. |
| Being ‘told’ to take a break by a ball dropped on my foot or thrown down the stairwell followed by barking! |
| Receiving baby pictures, pet pictures, family pictures from clients new and old. |
| Taking a brain-break by editing something already written (ah relax). |
| Dropping a quick “Thinking of you” to a client for no reason other than to connect. |
| Hearing the birds in the tree outside my window. |
| Looking up to see the picture of Dad on my bookshelf. |
| Stopping to read the Burnout Queens Desiderata (You mean you haven’t got one? Join the Realm Darlings!) |
Let’s be honest we can all lose the love of our work from time to time!
There will be days you don’t feel like showing up, but don’t make the mistake of thinking this means you don’t love what you do!
Stress, pressures, deadlines, dreaded tasks, the evil boss or conniving colleague, or just the tedium of the everyday can trick even the most enlightened and sensitive amongst us into missing (or possibly avoiding or ignoring) many opportunities to connect with the love of what you do.
In the BIG picture we all want to be happy at work. We want our work to be engaging, pleasurable and fun at times. We truly want to feel like we are doing something that contributes to the wellbeing of others in the world. That sense of contributing is love personified.
Yes there are times when we drag ourselves ‘to the office’ moaning, but there are other times when maybe life is in turnoil that work becomes a place of refuge, a sanctuary. Just the other day a client whose world has been turned upside down said it so clearly, “Thank goodness for my work, it’s keeping me sane!” There was a time that my office became my retreat, my haven of peace, from family illness, crises and loss. It was physically a peaceful and serene place, I loved my clients, and when ‘in session’ I was unavailable to the outside world! What’s not to love.
Even if you aren’t currently in your ideal job or career, allow yourself to love aspects of what you are doing.
Finding love for what you do in the present doesn’t mean you can’t dream about the future and embrace change when it comes.
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Love for your work, in whatever nooks and crannies you can find it, opens up your imagination, your creativity and awakens your soul.
Being a highly sensitive woman means you were delightfully designed to find work you love but first you have to find love in your work.
From our hearts to yours…Happy Valentines Day!
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Hello from Brighton & London: 6 February 2016
Darlings how are you! January 1st came quietly seaside (always an HSP plan). Lots of end-of-holiday relaxing, browsing through magazines, and of course, the pups being cute and crazy. All this while the weather outside was truly frightful! (windy, rainy and chilly…we left Canada to escape this but it seems they bundled it up and sent it over on the jetstream…lovely)
Speaking of weather, we tried to get up to London to soak in some culture, but trains were cancelled so change of plan…we enjoyed theatre seaside. We’re officially ‘sworn-to-secrecy about whodunit in London’s longest running mystery The Mousetrap (yes they insist at curtain call you cannot reveal anything, so lips are sealed), Fabulous entertainment and no it wasn’t the butler! (Dr T had figured it out early, but I didn’t see it coming at all!)
Spring is determined to arrive, so beauty isn’t far behind in the gardens and the flower shops. When I see the first buds and flowers it makes me want to get out of hibernation and leisurely browse the streets and shops in our quirky town.
February’s Leap Year is coming up, so we will have to discover something new and exciting this year. Will share it next time. And what about you?