The Realm’s weekly postcard with it’s assignment arrived in my inbox this past Sunday. It made me think about the question and how I would answer it, and so I posted in our private facebook page.
Then I thought, this is important, so I’m sharing it here as well.
The assignment for this week’s The Realm postcard asked our members to think not about their age, but about what or how age has changed them for the better over the last 10 years. So here was my answer….
” 10 years on and I am stronger and more able to say NO to people and things that aren’t right for me. How did I come to this? After several ‘crazy and manipulative’ people in my life pre UK and here as well, I can clearly and quickly see the train wreck coming towards me, so I say NO and get out. It may look like I’m a rude or unfriendly person, but having experienced prolonged relationships with friends, colleagues and family members who were not good for my health and mind, I have learned I have a choice to look after me.”
Here are my examples (and feel free to leave yours in the comments below)
- If someone blames me for something they clearly did themselves…they are banished quickly (my new Burnout Queen rules)
- If someone undermines, smears or belittles me and what I know in order to bolster their own inadequacies…they are banished immediately.
- If someone wants to talk only and always about themselves, and never asks about me…they are given a few chances…and then they are banished forever!
Some people will judge this as b**chy (and believe you me they have and on several occasions convinced me I was) but I don’t mind because 10 years on, my heart is in the right place and I am firm about what I have learned the hard way.
Life post-burnout is ‘very’ different thankfully.
Love, The Burnout Queens xx