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Stop Overwhelm and Embrace Life!

June 7, 2019

Are you feeling ‘overdone from overdoing’? Did I hear a big ‘YES’ from you? Then darling, you are OVERWHELMED and that won’t be a surprise to you.

When we’re overwhelmed we just want to sit down and throw our hands up in the air…give up…and hope tomorrow will be better than it feels right now. I’m sure you can relate.

In our podcast today, Dr T is talking about OVERWHELM, giving you insight into

what overwhelm actually is (not what you think)
what happens to you when you’re overwhelmed (anxiety, getting stuck and experiencing a brain drain)
how to offset your overwhelm

The Burnout Queens’ podcast OVERWHELM GEMS give you 7 Gems that are pretty darn simple to put into motion and reap you big results.

Stop the Overwhelm and Embrace Life!

Love, Dr Toby & Dr Bev (The Burnout Queens)

Hello from Lewes & London! 18 May 2019

May 18, 2019

A day of exploring gives us inspiration for continuing to live a burnout-free lifestyle. This April, The Burnout Queens took a daytrip (a little West) to Petworth. The last time we visited Petworth was literally decades ago. Now having the ‘wheels’ makes it possible to occasionally escape the work routine for a little historic R & R.

Petworth, West Sussex is an absolute gem! Of course all daytrips start with a good cup of tea and browse around, so drink up and let’s go….

We explored all four streets of delightful shops, then it was time to see ‘the big house’ and the famous deer park. The same family has lived in Petworth Manor for nearly 900 years!!!! With that timeline the house oozes stories of love affairs, wars, lineage, scandals, and legacy. We stopped to ask a guide a question and were generously treated to story after story for a good half hour! There were walls of art from top to bottom boasting masterpieces most of us only dream of seeing. And for those of you who are gardening enthusiasts, the deer park was designed by none other than famous landscaper, Capability Brown. She was the first landscaper to move away from ‘fussy’ gardens and embrace wide sweeping landscapes. Big names and big impact!

The size and scale of the house and gardens, even the furniture, is hard to imagine. And who of us has a family chapel inside our homes? (That’s Dr B giving you some idea of how big and high this chapel is).

It was such a beautiful sunny day we enjoyed meandering through one of the many areas of lawns and gardens. The deer park will have to wait for the next visit, perhaps with the Burnout Pups. The landscapes, designed views, walkways of flowers, and Roman structures are stunning. Enormous trees dating back to the 1700’s let us see beauty and age in a spiritual way. This is so good for my HSP soul.

It was time for afternoon tea and cake (walnut and coffee sponge) and a last doddle around Petworth Village before getting home to Pups. We couldn’t resist buying this adorable early 1900s decoy for our tiny garden trough. It brings a lasting memory of our day to our everyday.

Next daytrip is coming up: Monk’s House in East Sussex (village of Rodmell in the nearby countryside…google it) to see the home, gardens and writing cottage of Virginia and Leonard Woolfe. Cannot wait and promise to take loads of pics to share.

Are we inspiring you to take some time away from the usual ‘responsible stuff’ and enjoy exploring and discovering as much as we do? We hope so ‘cause, Darling, there’s a great big interesting world out there!

Love,

5 Years Ago Someone Called Us a ‘B’ Word! | And…We Knew Exactly What We Had To Do!

May 11, 2019

This May celebrates 5 illustrious and inspiring years since The Burnout Queens donned their crowns.

It all happened because one day our business coach cheekily said to us, “You ARE the Burnout Queens!” At first we thought, “Nah, we couldn’t…could we? We are serious psychotherapists and educators. Can we unleash our quirky and still get our message across?” Of course we could, so we did!

Our mission was simple…
To tell women that burnout is no way to live!

Pretty well all of our clients were Highly Sensitive, gifted, accomplished, and successful women. They were also exhausted, overwhelmed, discouraged, frazzled, and fed-up from living a Burnout Lifestyle. They didn’t realise that being burned out is not a normal state of affairs, it had just become their normal way of living.

5 Things Burnout Can Utterly Ruin In Your Life!

Health
Relationships
Career
Finances
Your dreams

We weren’t novices when it came to burnout! We had studied women’s burnout for years. We also knew about burnout from the bottom of our hearts and souls. We knew it from our own experiences, you see, we had both burned out more than once.

With lots of soul searching, lots of know-how, and lots of courage we changed our way of living from one of burnout to a life of balance. In fact, we are willing to go further, our lifestyle went from burnout to balance to bliss! How could we not share that message, inspiration, and all of our practical solutions?

We (The Burnout Queens) sat and pondered and talked (of course over tea and cake) until we figured out how we had beaten back burnout and come through the other end healthy, happy, and with our irreverent senses of humour intact!

We know the recipe for turning burnout on its head!
We know the freedom in living your unique and quirky potential!

5 Things You Need To Know About Burnout Right Now!

Burnout is more prevalent than ever.
Burnout is never simply about juggling the stuff of your life!
Each generation, from the Boomers to Gen Z, experience burnout.
Burnout is more, much more, than ‘just stress’.
You can live a burnout free lifestyle. Imagine!

The media talks about burnout from the perspective of too much stress, too much pressure, and having too much to do! We know that burnout isn’t about juggling the stuff of your life, women are great at juggling, and it isn’t about calendars or prioritising, no…

Burnout is about who you are!

Highly Sensitive women are particularly prone to burnout. You see your BOP Factor sends you straight to the front of the line in the burnout queue. If you don’t understand your BOP Factor (your burnout personality) well, my love, it’s down right impossible to go from flat on your face to back on your feet!

5 Essentials (we know, yawn) for Preventing Burnout Starting Now

Eat well
Exercise moderately
Get your sleep
Say ‘No’ more than you do now
Learn to relax

The thing is, if you are feeling fried, toasted, singed around the edges you may run screaming from the room (if you had the energy to run!) at the very idea of changing-up your life. We are here to tell you that renewing your life is doable; small everyday changes can mysteriously and magically add up to living burnout free forever.

5 Reasons Darling You Have To Say NO To Burnout!

If you want to find the real you.
If you ever want to enjoy having energy galore.
If you are dreaming about discovering new dreams.
If you want your relationships to be richer and sweeter.
So YOUR Life will be more fulfilling and full!

I mean to say, what are you waiting for?

If you are living a burnout lifestyle, if you are teetering on the edge of burnout, you need to stick with us. We know, we believe, and we want to share with you just how…

Life beyond burnout is bliss!

Until Next Time…Grab Life by the Crown!

P.S. The BOQs would love to hear from you! Leave your wisdom and comments in the box below.

You don’t have to be a mother on Mothering Sunday

March 30, 2019

You don’t have to be a ‘mother’ to celebrate darling.

Mothering Sunday is in fact, an old religious tradition for giving young women in service a day off to be with their families at church. It was reconfigured by the USA in the early 1900’s to celebrate nurturing of children and family. The trouble is Mother’s Day is thought to be only for mothers and leaves many women out of the equation for a number of reasons.

However, you don’t have to be ‘a mother’ to celebrate and be celebrated. Neither of The Burnout Queens have children, but over our careers we have nurtured hundreds (verging on thousands) of young women (and some men).

As psychotherapists and international coaches, we nurture our clients to grow, mature, expand their lives, marry, divorce, have children, decide to be childless, secure careers, change life direction, and become beautiful humans. For that we are proud of our mothering.

For us, however, the biggest mothering blessing is to witness clients finding their true soul’s desire.

So to all the women we know (and have yet to meet) who think today is only for those with children, celebrate helping and nurturing those around you. We and you are loved and make a massive difference!

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

Thank you to Caroline True Photography for the beautiful flower xx

It’s International Happiness Day!

March 20, 2019

The Burnout Queens hope you are feeling happy today of all days. Why not…March 20th is not only the first day of Spring, but International Happiness Day! We actually didn’t know it existed, but we are happy that it does because it gives us all time to reflect on the goodness in our life (I’m sure you can find something darling).

Happiness Day got us thinking about some fabulous resources that you might like to indulge in, but first why not try this little quiz.

READ THIS STUCK-TOGETHER SENTENCE OUT LOUD:

happinessisnowhere

What did your voice tell you? a) happiness is nowhere OR b) happiness is now here

Well, the differences are stark aren’t they. Does this sentence give you a glimpse into your attitude and approach to life and your feelings? Well…

If you read (B) then you will be feeling quite happy about how things are going. If you read (A) then you might take this Day of Happiness to seek some inspiration on how to, well, ‘feel happy’

The Burnout Queens recommend these resources.

Happiness Now! Timeless wisdom for feeling good fast. (by Robert Holden, PhD)

2. be happy. release the power of happiness in YOU (by Robert Holden, PhD)

And for those who love research:

3. Stumbling on Happiness (by Daniel Gilbert)

Here’s to a day of happiness!

Love, The Burnout Queens xx