Work-Life Balance | The Burnout Queens

Late For An Important Date?

January 20, 2016

If you are a woman always struggling to show up on time, this is for you.

We know you are juggling so many balls in the air that it’s often hard to fit everything into your day. Quite often you may find yourself running late. More often you overbook your day because you are busy running around for everyone else in your life (in which case, we need to talk). You may even want to re-acquaint yourself with Dr B’s post September 10th, 2015 about her client’s struggle with time.

But fear not dear one, The Burnout Queens have a Contingency System designed for you. Between your bookings, jobs, school run, clients, meetings, and any blank space in your diary think…

20 30 40 50 or 60 MINUTE INTERVALS

The result? Travel time, shifting gears, grabbing lunch, finding your breath…all sorted. Who knows, you may even have time for a quiet cuppa and cake (a Burnout Queens must-do)!

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

If You Are A No Show Alert, Alert!

January 19, 2016

What do you do when a client doesn’t show up for the second time in the month and it was booked and rebooked?

You have a choice. As a sensitive and creative therapist/coach in the past I would have been flexible to the point of giving in to the non-existent structure of the client. And of course, to keep the client’s business.

Now, I perceive the constant ‘no show’ as a sign that motivation is gone for this client, and my time and energy invested with my heart and training is not taken seriously, nor deemed worth much!

So the choice…new rules learned over the years is to give clients a 15 minute window of lateness and then get on with things. No sense chasing around after someone who is not able (nor wants) to be caught.

We have a motto in our business based on an old commercial in the US: ‘catch you now, or catch you later’ and it has always been spot on. If it’s not the client’s time, it won’t happen, but when it is…they will be back!

I am sure that many highly sensitive and smart women in business give clients the extra, extra mile and ‘do’ the right thing by their clientele. Ladies, ‘do’ the right thing by your own self. Stretching too far sometimes means you loosen too much of your self and self-respect.

Evolution. Dr Bev (The Burnout Queens) xx

Your effort is a direct mirror of your self-worth and self-approval

January 14, 2016

Your effort is a direct mirror of your self-worth and self-approval

The Burnout Queens wisdom: Your effort is a direct mirror of your self-worth and self-approval

Hello from Brighton & London: 2 January 2016

January 2, 2016

How was your December Darling? We hope you are resting-up after the hectic, frantic antics of the festive season. The Burnout Queens and Pups are having a leisurely holiday break and will be ‘back in the saddle’ in early January.

We love surrounding ourselves with beauty and holiday time in London fits the bill nicely. We tripped up to London for a day of walking, shopping and sightseeing in Piccadilly (outside The Ritz) and Carnaby Street (we’re 60’s children so Carnaby means a special groovy) to soak up the atmosphere and enjoy the decorations.

This holiday was purposely quieter than last (we had 5 family members from Canada visiting, ho, ho, ho). This is our first Christmas seaside so we shared meals with new friends, walked The Lanes and Laines (yes they are different), started a new puzzle (what were we thinking) and got creative redecorating and reorganising (the pups think these are great toy balls).

Of course there’s been a lot of cuddling the pups, eating chocolates and watching telly cause that’s the perfect mix for these two HSPs. But you know us, we are never far away from a good cup of tea and cake!

Listen, if your holidays didn’t go to plan and you swear you’re tossing the whole thing next year, take heart darling and grab our video “It’s Beginning to Look A Lot Like Chaos”. We’ve extended our Christmas Chaos Charity Campaign to January 5th, so here’s your chance to make next year more delightful rather than dreadful! The bonus is with a mere £2 purchase, we (that’s you, us and the UK gov’t) give a young girl an education instead of spending her days walking miles to gather water. How Burnout Queen brilliant!

https://theburnoutqueens.com/christmas-chaos/

What’s left? We have lots of ideas swimming in our heads ready to put down on paper for all of you, but more about that later. For now…

Love for 2016!

Can’t Keep Your Antlers Straight?

December 17, 2015

Can’t keep your antlers straight?…

You might just be in the Loop! That’s the B-Loop we’re talking about. What’s the B-Loop? Well my dears… B is for Burnout!

The holiday season is defined by stress and pressure: TV ads with sparkling lights and happy happy families, perfect dinners, happy families, mounds of presents, did we mention happy families?!!!

It’s enough to give you the chills! But you are a Burnout Queen so when the pressure hits you get going!

You vow you will..

dig in and push harder
achieve more
write more lists, check them twice (no make that 10 times!)
make double the shortbread
plan the perfect Holiday menu
craft like a crazy lady
buy more lights for the house (the neighbours doubled theirs!)
get more prezzies for the kids, musn’t disappoint
create the perfect decorating scheme
and get a reindeer for the front lawn (note to self make that a real one!)

Don’t look up you’re not done! You…

need to paint the guestroom, (it’s tired)
order the new sofa in time for the neighbourhood party
find the perfect dress for the office party (not too sexy not too prim)
make the Christmas pageant costumes (1 angel, 2 shepherds)
lose the extra weight by the holidays
and love your in-laws by Dec 24!

Welcome to the B-Loop! It’s a slippery slope with or without snow!

Burnout Queens think it’s normal to be in the Loop! We don’t recognise the pattern. Well, now you can! It looks like this…

stress >> dig in >> do more>> achieve less>> stress >>push harder

You live in the Loop with a smile on your face, you make it look easy and no one knows you are skating on thin ice! And because you make it look so easy-peasy everyone just expects you to do it all again…and again…and again…

Next year it will be different! We’ve heard that before, but now it can! Stick with us Darling Burnout Queens and we will show you how to get out of the Loop and stay out!

Join us inside The Realm and see how other women are escaping the Loop. What a gift! (Click here to become a free member instantly)

Until next time…sparkle! Dr Toby, The Burnout Queens xx