Business Burnout
Ladies how are you aging?
Ladies, how ARE you aging? This question may surprise you, but The Burnout Queens know that what we are about to suggest is rarely, if ever, what a woman does!
If we ask do you make lists? then all of you will say, “of course, what woman can hold all the details she needs to remember in her head…best to write them down”
But that’s not the kind of list we are meaning. We know stuff and things are readily written, but what about this powerful list?
Have you a list of strengths about yourself that have gotten better with age? Did we just hear a groan, sigh, silence?! How many of us are encouraged to write this list? Let’s pretend you do have such a list handy (and you will after reading this) and ask you again.
HAVE YOU A LIST OF STRENGTHS ABOUT YOURSELF THAT HAVE GOTTEN BETTER WITH AGE? If the answer is:
Yes, then embrace them fully and enjoy the power and wisdom of knowing and accepting.
No, then start your list (this kind of list not the stuff) and act on them from today onward. Still wise and powerful.
With respect — The Burnout Queens xx
It’s ‘Back to’ everything time
Autumn has definitely arrived on our doorstep here in London. There is a coolness to the morning air, the nights are drawing in earlier, and the leaves are turning colour and falling.
It’s back to school, back to work, back to the rat race we all have a love/hate relationship with.
Sooner, rather than later, all the family schedules and work projects will have consumed us and we will be thinking longingly (perhaps excitedly for some) of that next holiday or break. You know, that time when you can just Be with Yourself uninterrupted. Here’s our Tuesday remedy before the next holiday arrives:
Remember who you are outside of your job: Take a little piece of you to the office — a family photo, a picture of the last trip to the beach (no this isn’t me, I’m not quite that old) or a favourite art piece.
Nothing like a visual reminder to keep You on track with You.
Until that next moment…Grab Life by the Crown! — love The Burnout Queens
Monday Mantra
Your Monday Mantra to help you focus. With love Dr Toby & Dr Bev xx
The Burnout Queens
Life is Never on Diversion or Detour!
Do you ever feel like you are the only one clapping on the off-beat at a concert? Maybe the one swaying in the ‘wrong’ direction for the ballad?
(I just have to say, and I know our HSP readers will likely relate, thank goodness at concerts mobile phones are now used for lights to sway with! My HSP self was always sure someone’s hair was going to be set on fire when lighters were used! Ok, just had to get that out there.)
In our last feature article we talked about burnout as a result of a lousy fit job. Well we know for sure that some of you have grown up feeling like you have a lousy fit life! Unfortunately for many if not most Highly Sensitive women (HSPs) feeling ‘off-beat’ is an easily recognisable and pretty common feeling.
As an HSP I have gone through the majority of my life (well since becoming a precociously conscious child) feeling like everyone else had received the ‘right’ sheet music except me. I definitely hummed my own tune. And that has never stopped no matter what decade I am living.
Of course being off-time presents some ‘sticky-wickets’ to navigate!
- returning to school later in life
- changing career directions in your 50s
- being 60 and not having grandchildren
- having chosen to never marry
- having chosen to remain child-free
- hitting your fame and fortune in your 60s not 30s
- heading into your 60s and not thinking about retirement
- having kids in your 40s or even 50s instead of your 20s or 30s
- losing parents when you are young
- having caring responsibility for parents before the decade you expected to
- returning to the dating scene in your 50s or 60s
- dating someone much younger (you go girl!)
Like we said, sticky wickets, but the majority of our angst comes from cultural attitudes and beliefs about what is the ‘right time’ in life. That attitude is just sooo old! It is time to throw out the rule book. Give up the notion of ‘right or wrong’.
We believe that it’s always the ‘right’time. We believe you can never be ‘off-time’ for your life. We believe you are always in exactly the place you are meant to be. Your life is never on diversion or detour. Living this belief takes a major leap of faith. We just know…
It certainly means accepting, embracing, and holding high every fabulous HSP molecule of your being. Who cares if you are always out of sync with the masses. You were not designed to be one of the masses!
You are a Burnout Queen! You are unique.
Here’s one great tip!
Make this your mantra. Now stick it up all over the place so you can see it all the time and soak it in.
“I am always in the place I am meant to be at exactly the right time.”
Until next time…Grab Life by the Crown!
