The Burnout Queens

UK’s leading coaches for woman and burnout

Go ahead take an EGO trip

expensive luggageMore often than not we have to remind our clients, our fabulous and gorgeous clients, just how wonderful and special they are.  So, it is time…yes, it is time to take an Ego Trip!  So stand tall (with or without 4″ heels) and don the crown.  It is time to be your Queenly Self.

Oh, ok, having Ego has a bad rep, but why?  Ego gives us that foot-up to stand up and be counted.  Ego (lovely ego) says “Here I am world and I am wonderful”.  So here it is, 4 simple little steps to the perfect Ego Trip.

ONE:  Drop the modesty!  Write a list, a long list, of all things you love about yourself and all the things you do brilliantly.  Include all your fab qualities and we know you have many.  Can’t love others till you love yourself we say.

TWO: Write that acceptance speech!  Celebrate your success and invite more success into your life.  Keep your success quiet, and…well no one knows about you.  Invite your Ego to stand up and accept that gold.  Tip:  Hand your Ego a speech that includes a long list of your successes.

THREE:  Pamper your Queen!  Now that you know what a great person you are (You do know that by now don’t you?) do nice things for yourself.  Lots and lots of nice things, small or large, doesn’t matter.  Include things for your pleasure, your satisfaction and just a few to make life gentler and kinder.

FOUR:  Pledge allegiance to your Inner Queen!  Believe in her.  Accept all of your brilliance, creativity, sensitivity and success.  You are powerful, strong, and lovable.

Just one last thing left to do before you head off on your Ego Trip.  Add this mantra to your morning routine…

Everyday, in every way, I simply get better and better.

Own your time, it’s worth every minute

hourglasspDo you race through the day with your heartbeat outstripping your pace?  Do you end up being late, guilty, and frustrated, not to mention exhausted and slightly cranky?  Our clients’ creative time-telling certainly ups the pressure in their high-achieving lifestyles.

It’s just so easy to schedule work days under the delusion that we can move through space without having to actually drive from point A to B, always find a parking spot, or never miss the train.  We schedule back to back appointments and obligations but never think about contingency time for commuting, waiting, other people being late, last minute calls, needing to stop for petrol, or a multitude of spur of the moment hold-ups.  How self-defeating is that?

On weekends we pack so much into two itty-bitty days: errands, friend & family time, cleaning, exercise, appointments and, wait for it, relaxation!  Monday rolls around and we feel like we have been through the spin cycle.  It’s almost a relief to go back to work!

We’ve learned the hard way, that there is a difference between being creative about how you use your time, and being creative about how much time actually exists.  Then there’s that pesky little thing called being realistic about how much time something will actually take you to do.

Feeling out of control of time leads to feeling frazzled, always trying to catch up and always feeling frustrated.  That’s a burnout cycle.  Get realistic about time-telling and your sense of overwhelm and exhaustion will drop.  You’ll need some patience and you may not accomplish absolutely everything you want to each day (take a deep breath before you hyperventilate!), but it does mean that minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day, week by week you will begin to own your time.  Now that’s worth every minute.

Here’s one great tip:  Automatically give yourself a 20-30 minute buffer zone around meetings and appointments.  No, this does not mean squeeze in something else.  If you get to a meeting early, bonus!  Take a quick walk around the block to stretch tired muscles or maybe just grab a quick cup of tea and daydream about how you are going to enjoy this weekend, not fry it!

 

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