Are there times it seems like ‘Who You Are’ has been shaped by the opinions of others?  You are not far off the truth and it begins from the time your little feeties touch the earth.  We are raised to believe that the opinions of others count for more than our own opinions.  We are taught to listen to parents, siblings, teachers, friends, religious mentors and many other influences (or should I say influencers these days).  Of course, the wisdom and guidance of others has a genuine place in our development,  The problem is that over time we forget that…

Others opinions are simply that, others opinions.

When society convinces us that ‘Who We Are’ is determined by others, we end up outsourcing our self-identity, our self-approval and finally our all-important self-worth.  We spend so much time trying to be what someone else wants that we shrink, become invisible and ultimately stop believing in ourself.

Our authentic/true/real/essential Self gets lost amidst all that external noise.  Like a mirror that has lost its true reflection we no longer see who we were born to be.

We stop knowing what is ‘right’ for us and what is ‘wrong’.  We end up in relationships that don’t fit, jobs that don’t work, and careers that pinch like bad shoes.  We learn how to ignore our natural talents, to change our very person, even physically, to meet the opinions (read needs) of someone else.  Worse still, we lose our desire to contribute to the world in a way that honours and values who we were born to be.  And that, my dears, is the biggest contributor to burnout.  But all is not lost…

Start with this one simple question:  Who did YOU want to be when you grew up? 

This single question can point the way back to your beautiful authentic Self and set you on the path to a burnout-free lifestyle.

With love,  Dr Toby & Dr Bev (aka:  The Burnout Queens) xx