The Burnout Queens Wisdom: Is it time for a new you?
Highly Sensitive Woman
The experience of living as a highly sensitive woman in a noisy, busy and unrelenting world
Our Hearts Are Cold With Fear
Three months ago we heard that a friend had gone missing. At the time we had no idea what could have happened to her. It was widely reported that she may have simply ‘disappeared from her life on purpose’. She wouldn’t have done this; she was an intelligent, accomplished, savvy, gentle soul and would not have hurt the people around her like this.
Our hearts were cold with fear because we knew from all our many years of education and practice in the field of women’s studies and women’s psychology that the sad but still true fact is the mere fact of being a woman puts you at risk.
Yesterday we found out that the police had arrested a man she had come to trust in her life on suspicion of murder. They have still not found Helen. We feel sick with our own personal grief but we also feel angry.
The majority of women who are killed are killed by trusted males in their lives. Domestic violence is still one of the leading causes of injury and death for women.
It’s not only the ‘night’ that we need to take back, we need to take back our world. It isn’t right that we have to even think about, let alone worry about, going out alone at night, what you are wearing, how you are looking, what you say, who you flirt with or even who you live with. It’s just not right.
For decades we have asked, oh let’s be truthful, begged women to read this brilliant book and then to give it to their daughters, granddaughters, sisters and nieces and then friends daughters, granddaughters, sisters and nieces. The book is called:
The Gift of Fear. Survival Signals That Protect Us From Violence by Gavin De Becker. Published by Little, Brown and Company in 1997.
(sadly I’ve been told to add this one line…we are not receiving any payment for promoting this book)
We have to start somewhere to take back our world, this book offers all of us a good starting point.
So in honour of Helen, our lovely Helen and her mini-dachs Boris, please take care of yourself, please read, please please trust your intuition and protect yourself. And then…live the fullest life you can. We can all do this for Helen.
In love and light, The Burnout Queens xx
Stop being inhibited…let your fun-side out
The Burnout Queens Wisdom: Stop being inhibited…let your fun-side out
Hello from Brighton & London!: 9 July 2016
Happy July Holiday to our Canadian and American friends. And Happy 7th UK Anniversary to The Burnout Queens.
This month, we’re showing you our favourite daytrip locale in London…Chelsea. We love, love, love spending time here (we rented a flat here while we planned our big move to the UK). When you ‘do’ Chelsea you don’t ever ‘do’ dull!
An unexpected delight was this shoe shop’s sidewalk with a shabby-chic bench topped with wooden boxes full of the most delightful flowers. What a truly urban garden (we’re going to steal this idea it’s so fabulous).
By now you know each London daytrip involves some form of culture and art, like the Saatchi Gallery debute party for The Stone’s Exhibitionism! No we weren’t invited, but we did enjoy the iconic street installation…
Easy to soak in the style of Chelsea whether sitting to rest our tired shopping feet (where are all the parcels…behind the photographer…there were quite a few this trip) or grabbing a quick cuppa in one of the open air caff’s. It just makes The Burnout Queens instantly relax and feel right at home again.
A girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do when it comes to shopping in Chelsea, so we are never sat still for long. Just one last stop before we start the ride home! And Chelsea being Chelsea, the transportation was supremely unexpected (no this is not how we got home, although I wish…)
Definitely a few £££’s lighter, we endured a cramped trainride back to the seaside and the pups who are always over-the-moon in their greeting. Then it’s back to work, tending the roof garden (aubergine/eggplant, tomatoe/tomato and loads of lettuce), and generally waiting for sunshine and our next adventure!
Till next month from the seaside and London…or who knows where….
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Believe in what whispers softly inside you
The Burnout Queens Wisdom: Believe in what whispers softly inside you