Do you sometimes feel like you are the only one in the audience clapping on the off-beat or swaying in the ‘wrong’ direction for the ballad?  Well, for many Highly Sensitive women (HSWs) feeling ‘off-beat’ is pretty common.

As an HSW myself, I have, through the majority of my life, often wondered if everyone else had received the ‘right’ sheet music except me!  I have definitely spent most of my life humming my own hit-parade.  I solemnly believe,

It’s not always easy being out-of-sync, but it is definitely more interesting!

Of course off-time, out-of-sync, or off-beat experiences can present unique challenges, like some of these adventures:

• returning to school later in life at a time where wearing the uniform might earn you a place on a questionnable website,
• changing careers when you are ‘supposed’ to be grown-up & settled,
• being 60 and not having any pictures to play ‘grandchild bingo’ with,
• proudly having chosen to remain eternally single,
• having by-passed the child road altogether,
• hitting your fame and fortune in your 60s (take your bow darling!)
• laughing off the idea of retirement at any age,
• becoming a mum in your 40s or even 50s,
• having elderly parent-care duties before you were ready,
• returning to the dating scene at a more ‘mature’ age,
• dating someone much younger (you go girl!)

Yes, a few challenges for sure, but the majority of our angst about feeling different comes from cultural attitudes and beliefs about everything having a ‘right time’ in life.  This is where burnout comes into play.  Some of us spend years trying to get on the right foot, hit the right note, or sing with the chorus mainly to please other people.  I hear the 4Ds of burnout calling; disappointment, discouragement, disillusionment, and ultimately disheartenment.  If there is a ‘right’ time to do something, that time could be right now!

Throw out the rule book because that attitude of needing to do things at the right time, in the right way or at the right age is just sooo old!  These days…

You choose the rhythm for your life, and then you get to dance!
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The BOQs  believe it’s always the ‘right time’.  If you decide to believe, you can never be off-time or off-beat.  You are always exactly where you are meant to be.  Your life is never on a detour, you just need to follow the road signs of passion and joy.  So regardless of a few raised eyebrows, we just know…

You wouldn’t be your fabulous self if you hadn’t lived a little ‘off-beat’.

Now having your own unique life-rhythm certainly calls for embracing every fabulous highly sensitive molecule of your being.  Who cares if you are occasionally or always out-of-sync with the masses.  You, my dear, were never designed to be one of the masses!   You were designed to defy ordinary.  You are a Burnout Queen. 

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