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HSP woman wants to build a wall

March 2, 2016

Yes I do, I want to build a wall!

Please don’t confuse me with that guy running for US president, but I actually do want to build a wall. You see, there’s just too much going on these days, and it’s driving me crazy. It’s grating on my nerves, making me irritable, and generally intruding on all my senses.

So what’s going on you ask? Open plan living! You know living, dining, terrace and kitchen all-in-one. Very hip, very modern, very NOW. So when I initially saw my new flat I was excited with possibilities. In my zest to decorate the space in my head, I neglected to consider how noisy it might become.

When I clock off work, I’m ready for my evening to begin. As a highly sensitive woman, there’s nothing more soothing than a little dim lighting, low hum and watching a bit of television while I get dinner. Well, my gorgeously decorated open living space doesn’t deliver…I want to build a wall!

As a highly sensitive woman yourself, can you guess where I’m going with this? The gas stove is on (noise), the fan for the stove is on (noise), the fridge is opening and closing (noise), the dinner is being prepared, chop, chop, chop (more noise), the water is being poured into saucepans (double noise), the microwave is beeping (noise) and the television is on (turned ever higher to actually hear the news or show, making it noise over the top). And don’t even get me started on the Burnout Pups playing ball, barking and generally under foot because work is done and playtime is NOW for them (and I’m not even going to start with the noise of after-dinner cleanup and the dishwasher)!

Humming, banging, barking, bright lights, clanking pots and running water… my now over-aroused and jangled system yearns for that beautifully quiet evening of rest and relaxation.

Suffice to say open plan living for this highly sensitive woman is not a match made in heaven. So I want to build a wall and call the space on the other side ‘my kitchen’. Old fashioned maybe, quiet most definitely!

Anyone else feel my pain?!?

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

Reaching 100 like Gwen!

February 24, 2016

Today Dr B’s mother is turning 100 years of age. For that accomplishment alone, we say brava and the happiest of days from across the pond!

She is receiving a message from the ‘real’ Queen today and it will mean so much to her. She is a daughter of the commonwealth and queen through and through.

I can remember (as can Dr T) many royal visits to my hometown of Vancouver, getting dressed up in my very best little dress and gloves and holding the union jack…waiting for the Queen to drive by. Yes I said gloves it was the 50’s! 3 generations of women in our family, grandmother (born in England), mother (born in Canada) and me (born in Canada now living in England) all waiting to catch a glimpse of this woman who wore crowns and gowns and to whom we sang God Save the Queen every morning at school, every baseball game, and every night as the television station signed off the air.

Enjoy the day, your year and the amazing accomplishment of reaching 100 years of age.

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

Burnout Pups have style too!

February 23, 2016

Well, This little miss just turned 6 years old! She has style that’s for sure…she wouldn’t be one of The Burnout Pups if she didn’t. The neck scarf just can’t be worn around the neck, no no no, she’s too creative for that.

If you belong to The Realm of The Burnout Queens you have to be creative and quirky, so any neck attire automatically becomes a scarf. She has seen so many pictures of the real Queen to know her fashion.

Being the little nervous pup she is (a true HSP because they exist in the animal world) the ‘cute’ factor always hides her nerves and hood-winks admirers into thinking she’s very bold. It seems to work for her. Wonder what we can find to hide the nerves and show the boldness we truly possess!

Here’s to the birthday girl and teaching us style can be uniquely bold! xx

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

A gift of love from The Burnout Queens

February 14, 2016

On today of all days, The Burnout Queens want to share the love we send to our members inside The Realm! Each week they receive a special postcard that encourages them to cultivate a better life. And we don’t stop there, they get their weekly assignment to put that concept to good use. Change is happening in such a beautiful way for these women, we just thought today we would reach out to all our community to share this special postcard.

Here’s your copy and if you find it enriching we hope it will entice you to join us. When you register you immediately join a creative group of women from Germany, New Zealand, Australia, United Kingdom, United States, Canada and Brazil, all waiting to welcome you to The Realm! Join us by clicking here: The Realm!

Hello Darlings!

Are you ready to fall in love with yourself? Can you find all your little quirky imperfections endearing? Will you hang on your every word with respect and interest, be absorbed in your dreams, laugh at your own jokes and treat yourself with the same gentleness you would treat another love?

When you fall in love with yourself you open your heart, you listen to your soul and you feel connected to who you truly are. Begin this journey today. Don’t wait to fall in love with yourself ‘if or when’ and definitely don’t wait till Monday to start!

Fall in love with who you are now and not who you would like to be…sometime…when you have time.

Here’s your weekly assignment:

Write yourself a love note, what you admire in yourself, what you love about your looks, your life, your being. How you look forward to your relationship growing and deepening.

Be special to yourself: buy yourself chocolates or your favourite flowers or make your favourite breakfast to leisurely enjoy. Have a bubble bath and love your body. Take yourself to the theatre, read poetry or listen to music that makes your soul soar…or dance!

Draw a Heart, then write your name in it. Paste it on your mirror and then every morning this week go ahead and say it,

“I’m falling in love with you!”

Love, The Burnout Queen xx

Well did you love our special love note? Of course, our members will be sharing their hearts and success inside The Realm in our private facebook group. Can’t wait to see all the photos with creative ‘hearts on the mirrors’ that I know they will share.

We’ll be sharing our hearts, won’t you join us too? (Click here to receive instant membership). Joining The Realm will make your feel special, supported and celebrated by all our members who are actively and I might add impressively enriching their lives.

See you inside and Happy Valentine’s Day from The Burnout Queens xx

Time to take a break when…

February 9, 2016

It was definitely time to take a break…

The Burnout Queens took a week out to drop off the work scene. It was definitely time! If it’s one thing I have learnt over my long career it’s time to take a break when…

I want to stay in bed and pull the duvet up over my head
I want to do anything but sit at my desk
I want to do anything but speak with my dear clients
I want to retire and move to a quiet beach (oh wait I’ve done some of that!)
I find myself crankie at the dogs for everything (even when they are being cute)
I find myself dreading ‘calling home’ to speak to my 99 year old mother
I can’t catch a train to London because of weather or no petsitter (no cultural play makes me very grumpy)
I can’t stand being around people and noise (my Dietrich moments)
I can’t focus for more than a few seconds (unless it’s a puzzle and I’m obsessed)

I’m sure you get the idea. And I’m doubly sure you recognise many of these for yourself! Better to take a break and gather my steam again so that I can be creative, present and enjoyable to be around. Of course, breaks are always announced to clients after looking at the calendar, asking them to change their call dates (seldom do this, but…) and clearing the decks of responsibility.

I’m pleased to say that I didn’t decide to pack a million and one things into 7 days, but I did some very pleasant sightseeing and tea sipping at my leisure. You could say a curative rest. It was a good plan and the feedback from my community says Dr T and I are great role models for taking care of ourselves and not burning out. Well that’s the idea anyway!

Next time you find yourself feeling the same way, take yourself away and rest up. Take it from these 2 docs, “You could just prevent yourself from burning out!”

Love, Dr B (The Burnout Queens) xx