We just bet that you never thought the Burnout Queens would be talking about failure.  After all, we are known to be ‘glass half full’ kind of women.  Promise, we won’t disappoint, we shall remain optimistic even in the face of failure.

Failure is inescapable and necessary.  Seriously, failure is actually good for you!  It gives you practice for life ‘cause after all, life is all about trial and error.  Sometimes we get it right and sometimes we simply don’t.  So, as far as we can see…

If you don’t know how to fail,
well you don’t know how to live.
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We all have the skill to fail and make the most of it.  Did we say “skill to fail”?  Mon Dieu!  Oh sure, you can be a sloppy mistake maker but that’s not Burnout Queen style.  We prefer you fail with flair and you can do that.  Just embrace the Power of Failure and you come away bigger and bolder.

Failure expands your repertoire.

To make failure work for you, you have to understand it.   There are a few different ways in which you can fail, for instance, idea-wise.  Maybe your original idea is flawed or weak.  The more you work on it the more you realise it’s going nowhere.  Now this is a good thing to know because you can get out while the going’s good!  (You won’t believe how many articles get zapped with the ‘delete’ button!)

Then there are times you can suffer a failure of judgement!  Oh yes, we have all had moments when better judgement eludes us!  Maybe you trusted someone else’s judgement over your own or maybe you didn’t listen to your inner knowledge.  Whatever the reason, cringe and move on!

You know sometimes we ‘fail’ just because we haven’t got the necessary skill or ability to pull something off.  Easy two options…outsource or upgrade your skills.  No failure in that!

Now here’s another important confession about failure…it hurts!  No denying it, failure is ‘icky’ (that’s a clinical term by the way!).  It is frustrating and it can be embarrassing.  So go ahead, sit down and nurse your insults with cake and chocolate then get over it.  It is life, and failure is going to happen again…and again…and, yes likely, again.  Be human, give yourself permission to goof-up and even look foolish.  Then learn from it.  That’s the best way you get your courage back if failure has made you lose your nerve.

You have to defy failure if you want to defy ordinary!
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Remember, many of our failures exist only in our gorgeous heads!  Private failures so to speak.  Go ahead and have as many of these as you can.  Stop thinking of them as ‘wrong or misled’ and think of them as ‘first tries, first drafts, or first kick at the can!’  Ideas have to evolve and ripen before they see daylight.  Dress them up any way you want ‘cause no one but you sees them!

The experience of failure is profoundly personal.  One person’s failure is another’s success!

There are really only a couple of responses to failure; stick with the old or try something new.  You don’t need a perfect solution to every problem, you don’t even need to fix every failure.  One of the joys of failure is that you can literally wipe it away with a grande gesture and start afresh.  And that’s why…

Failure can be energising!  In fact if you let it, failure can be the messenger of great change.  When you recognise where and when you have tried and ‘failed’ you will begin to see new opportunities to try again or maybe try a totally new direction in the future.

With failure you can release the status quo and create newness in your life.

Understanding that we can fail with strength is important to both Burnout Queens and Highly Sensitive Women (often one and the same)!  When we are highly sensitive we tend to weight the ‘failure’ side or our life equation much more heavily than the success side.  We need to balance that scale…or burnout.

Fail privately.  Fail publicly.  Fail as many times as you want, but never, ever, apologise for failing.  Fail with pizzazz!  Own your failure proudly, then dust yourself off, straighten your crown and elegantly stride on!

Hey do you hear that noise?

That’s The Universe applauding your boldness!

PS.  The BOQs would love to hear from you!  Leave your wisdom and comments in the box below.