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Late For An Important Date?

January 20, 2016

If you are a woman always struggling to show up on time, this is for you.

We know you are juggling so many balls in the air that it’s often hard to fit everything into your day. Quite often you may find yourself running late. More often you overbook your day because you are busy running around for everyone else in your life (in which case, we need to talk). You may even want to re-acquaint yourself with Dr B’s post September 10th, 2015 about her client’s struggle with time.

But fear not dear one, The Burnout Queens have a Contingency System designed for you. Between your bookings, jobs, school run, clients, meetings, and any blank space in your diary think…

20 30 40 50 or 60 MINUTE INTERVALS

The result? Travel time, shifting gears, grabbing lunch, finding your breath…all sorted. Who knows, you may even have time for a quiet cuppa and cake (a Burnout Queens must-do)!

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

If You Are A No Show Alert, Alert!

January 19, 2016

What do you do when a client doesn’t show up for the second time in the month and it was booked and rebooked?

You have a choice. As a sensitive and creative therapist/coach in the past I would have been flexible to the point of giving in to the non-existent structure of the client. And of course, to keep the client’s business.

Now, I perceive the constant ‘no show’ as a sign that motivation is gone for this client, and my time and energy invested with my heart and training is not taken seriously, nor deemed worth much!

So the choice…new rules learned over the years is to give clients a 15 minute window of lateness and then get on with things. No sense chasing around after someone who is not able (nor wants) to be caught.

We have a motto in our business based on an old commercial in the US: ‘catch you now, or catch you later’ and it has always been spot on. If it’s not the client’s time, it won’t happen, but when it is…they will be back!

I am sure that many highly sensitive and smart women in business give clients the extra, extra mile and ‘do’ the right thing by their clientele. Ladies, ‘do’ the right thing by your own self. Stretching too far sometimes means you loosen too much of your self and self-respect.

Evolution. Dr Bev (The Burnout Queens) xx

Afternoon Tea in The Realm: Defying Ordinary!

November 30, 2015

Just this past Friday, Dr Toby and I (Dr Bev) sat down at the dining table over a pot of tea and macarons (delish) while we filmed a video for our ladies in The Realm!

Our Afternoon Tea in The Realm discussion was…Defy Ordinary and what that means to you.

Half an hour of sipping, chatting, taking questions and sharing really fabulous opinions about how highly sensitive, creative and smart women can start defying ordinary in their own unique ways.

Next month’s topic already picked and it will start the New Year off on a high note. Can’t wait to get our member’s opinions on this one.

If you’d like to join us, membership inside The Realm is free, it’s inspiring, it’s supportive and we’d love you to join us. Your membership begins here: The Realm

See you inside, The Burnout Queens xx

Be happy with yourself

November 25, 2015

The Burnout Queens Wisdom: Be happy with yourself

Soul Burnout: Being an HSP in Painful Times

November 21, 2015

“What is this world coming to? What has happened to humanity? I don’t understand…”

These days we are hearing these sentiments from oh so many of our Highly Sensitive Burnout Queens. The anger, suffering and pain in the world, the apparent lack of love, the disbelief that human beings can be indifferent to each other, and we would add the way some humans treat animals with such disregard, and let’s not forget our poor planet! Well it makes us all very sad and weary. Sigh…….

Maybe you are experiencing something similar, a sense of disillusionment, a loss of faith in humanity, the feeling that nothing makes sense anymore. And you know, all that makes us feel insecure, kind of nervous, anxious and uneasy. To say it is disappointing is a massive understatement, the international events of the last few weeks leave many of us feeling totally disheartened to say the least!

At times you may feel that there is nothing left to believe in…there is.

We see this as a kind of ‘soul burnout’. When you are Highly Sensitive it can feel like the weight of the world, the pain of the world, resides within you. Sometimes you just don’t know what to do with it and end up feeling powerless and, yes, definitely hopeless. So what can you do?

Well, crowns off to those courageous and bold souls who head off into dangerous places to offer aid and care to both humans and animals in need. My heart swells with joy and gratitude with the knowledge that such brave individuals exist! Then there are the rest of us…

We may not be ready to take a heroic stance, but we can live with Everyday Spirituality. Everyday Spirituality doesn’t have to be big, it doesn’t necessarily encompass grand gestures, it doesn’t even have to be called anything specific with a Capital Letter. We believe that everyone can embace life and live each and every day with meaning and purpose. Oh don’t get all worried about ‘finding your purpose’ (that’s way too heady for us!) all you have to remember is to…

Live your life in the pursuit of compassion, kindness, beauty, understanding and love in your own unique way

Shine your HSP light into the world. Do not live in fear. Always strive for your Highest Dream regardless of how futile it can sometimes feel in this shocking world.

Imagine. Create. Believe.

PS. The BOQs would love to hear from you! Leave your wisdom and comments in the box below.

PPS! Won’t you join The Burnout Queens for Afternoon Tea this month? Exclusive member only event.

The Realm is having an Afternoon Tea Talk on November 30^th, 2015. Dr Toby and Dr Bev will be discussing what it means to Defy Ordinary, how to actually do it, and answer all your questions. It doesn’t matter where you live on the planet, it’s on video so you won’t miss a thing. The video will be viewed online with a private link…but you must be a member to join us.

Ready to create a bigger, better and bolder you? Join us for tea and talk