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Embracing a summer-pace lifestyle

July 30, 2019

Always striving for balance we’ve taken impromptu moments away from work to de-stress and play… after all darling, we’re all about putting our burnout-balance-bliss system to the test.

We’re calling this our summer-pace lifestyle. It takes skill, boundaries, and plenty of curiosity.

Relaxing days strolling through newly discovered neighbourhoods, poking around interesting shops, checking out the art open houses and plenty of room for afternoon tea…cake and all. It’s what we both love and do best.

The benefit of all this summer fun? We return to work refreshed, rested and creative.

(Of course you can always catch our latest edition of ‘Hello from London & Lewes’ to see the photos that prove we are living what we suggest!)

Here’s to embracing your own summer-pace lifestyle.

The Burnout Queens xx

The Big Leap’s initial excitement

July 4, 2019

Our first morning in our new country happened to be JULY 4th! How symbolic for two Canadians to be celebrating our own Independance Day in a country we had held as a dream destination since we were both teenagers. We sat in the local cafe (we had to have the English breakfast) and just watched and took in the vibe of our new neighbourhood. It felt great and we had given ourselves a month to settle into the flow of London while we waited for our container of furniture to arrive.

Arrival date, first rental flat and lucky us it was a dreamy, quirky little up-down with a garden in North London. Welcome home!

It was fun to start decorating and fitting our belongings into a smaller space, making it work, making it feel like home, yet seeing it all in a new way.

We were settling into our adventure with enthusiasm. And of course we found a real passion for ‘taking tea’ wherever we explored. So many options and all the time in the world we kept saying. We’re not on holiday, this is where we live now. Yet it felt like the best holiday ever!

Embracing our new routine and lifestyle. Sunday morning reads & tea

New routines, new locals, new neighbours, new everything. And even though we were in England, everything had different labels, brands and names. Tiring work, so relaxing for tea and a read became our new norm!

Good start at living a Burnout-Free Lifestyle don’t you think?

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

The Big Leap times 10 years!

July 3, 2019

From Here to There!

We just cannot believe it has been a full decade that we left our home and country. Last evening we were sitting in the Vancouver International Airport saying ‘shouldn’t we be nervous, or sad, or something?’ We weren’t, we were just quietly waiting for our one-way ticket to our new destination in life.

Brave or stupid? Just feels right. We had sold our condo, money in the bank, said good-bye to family, friends, neighbours and clients (although some would stay with us over skype), all our belongings except our luggage was packed into a container enroute across Canada to board a boat heading east!

A big leap of faith was starting to really happen.

I vividly remember looking out the window of the plane as we took off, looking back at my neighbourhood (we climbed right over it) and thought…’I don’t know what will happen or how it will turn out, but I’m open to whatever transpires’.

A long sleep, a beautifully calm flight and we landed in our new homeland. The customs woman looked at our passports and VISAs and said, ‘welcome home‘. Just such a deeply happy moment we had both waited for for the last 4 decades. You couldn’t wipe the smiles off our faces, even after the 10 hour flight and time-change.

So it’s official. We live in England and over the next 10 or so days in honour of these 10 years, we’ll give you a peek at the life we set up and are living from then until now (warts, pups and all)!

In the meantime…..

HAPPY 10th ANNIVERSARY TO THE BOTH OF US!

Crack open the books

June 26, 2019

What better time than summer to crack open the books you’ve longed to read all year long. The days are long, the pace is summer-slow, and the time is yours to catch up on yourself.

The Burnout Queens believe in the power of knowledge. With our psychology degrees, our coaching expertise, and a specialty in womens’ issues, we wanted to share just a few books that will help you jump any life hurdles and open you up to even more personal growth.

Here are a few of our ‘must reads’ to get you started.

Excuses Begone! (Dr. Wayne W. Dyer)
Be Happy. (Robert Holden, Ph.D.)
Quiet. (Susan Cain)

Happy Reading darling.

Dr Toby Silverton & Dr Bev McLagan aka…The Burnout Queens xx

You don’t have to be a mother on Mothering Sunday

March 30, 2019

You don’t have to be a ‘mother’ to celebrate darling.

Mothering Sunday is in fact, an old religious tradition for giving young women in service a day off to be with their families at church. It was reconfigured by the USA in the early 1900’s to celebrate nurturing of children and family. The trouble is Mother’s Day is thought to be only for mothers and leaves many women out of the equation for a number of reasons.

However, you don’t have to be ‘a mother’ to celebrate and be celebrated. Neither of The Burnout Queens have children, but over our careers we have nurtured hundreds (verging on thousands) of young women (and some men).

As psychotherapists and international coaches, we nurture our clients to grow, mature, expand their lives, marry, divorce, have children, decide to be childless, secure careers, change life direction, and become beautiful humans. For that we are proud of our mothering.

For us, however, the biggest mothering blessing is to witness clients finding their true soul’s desire.

So to all the women we know (and have yet to meet) who think today is only for those with children, celebrate helping and nurturing those around you. We and you are loved and make a massive difference!

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

Thank you to Caroline True Photography for the beautiful flower xx