frazzled

Abandoning Myself to Pleasure

theatre

When I go to the theatre, I go for the full entertainment value:  plot, costumes, songs, sets.  From moment I enter the lobby, it’s the mood, the architecture, the decor and drinks, that transport me out of my real world and into the world of fantasy.  It’s a lovely way to forget the biz, kids, worries and abandon myself to pleasure.

Sadly, others don’t share my experience and abandonment.  It makes me sad to see them ‘bring their world’ with them, seemingly unable to let it go, even for a moments pleasure.

When they take their seats they look at the tiny screen in their hand instead of the beautiful architecture, or speaking with their companion.  When the lights dim and the curtain starts to part, they are still sending their last minute text, email or photo instead of feeling the anticipation of what’s about to happen.  At intermission they whip out their screens to catch up, reply and browse the world, instead of watching the audience, sipping a drink or enjoying their strawberry and ice treat (this is something I truly cannot comprehend).

At the end of the performance, I walk away having enjoyed myself, having experienced something new, having lived in the moment, having forgotten the outside world.  Their experience is a very different story to mine.

I’ve learned to consciously embrace these moments.   It’s one of the ways I live a burnout-proof lifestyle.  I find it such a shame others cannot do the same…yet (I always hold out hope)!

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

 

Assertiveness For HSPs!

A little effort takes away the ordinary

As a highly sensitive, intelligent and creative woman you may have a natural HSP tendency to ‘pause-to-check’.  Brief overview, ‘pause-to-check’ comes from our need for a little caution.

We can use this to our advantage by turning it into what we call ‘pause-to-respond’ moments and banish the regret of not getting across your idea clearly.  This way, when you do speak up you are heard perfectly!  Here’s how:

5 quick ways to power up your pause-to-respond skill.

  1. Buy time – Need a longer pause, be assertive with, “I’ll get back to you on that”.
  2. Ask Self – Take your ‘pause’ moment to consider what you really want to say.
  3. Silence can be golden. Maybe, just maybe, a non-response is the right way to go. Silence speaks volumes.
  4. Own what you want to say – If you have already responded, but had second thoughts (or 100th thought if an HSP!) return and re-say. “I’ve been thinking about what I said, and what I would have liked to say or truly meant was…”.
  5. Respond thoughtfully – Take your time and don’t be rushed. You may feel like it’s forever, but it will only take you seconds longer to speak thoughtfully and mindfully.

If you found these 5 quick responses helpful and want more of our HSP-specific gems all you have to do is become a member of The Realm! and enjoy your postcards every Sunday.

The Realm!, is a free club for women who want to Defy Ordinary.  We are creative, sensitive and ‘very’ global.  Register here and receive your instant member’s access information.

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

Something’s new inside The Realm

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For our members of The Realm, we’ve archived all the Sunday postcards in the Reading Room inside the membership site.  Use your private log-in details and click the Reading Room icon to get all the links.

Why not use this opportunity to refresh your memory, take another read and redo your weekly assignment.  Remember, small steps, big impact.

In support of Defying Ordinary,  Love The Burnout Queens xx

PS:  If you aren’t a private member, but would love to join our global community of women as they creatively Defy Ordinary for themselves, feel free to register yourself.  You will get instant access to our community on facebook (private group) and all the materials in the member’s access area.  Register here:  https://theburnoutqueens.com/the-realm/

 

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