Dr Bev | The Burnout Queens

My Reality, Your Reality, Our Reality

June 23, 2016

We all have a way of looking at things in our life. It’s called perspective. There’s nothing wrong with having your own perspective on things, it is after all how your eyes see the world…your reality.

Others see the world, (their reality) through their own eyes and perspective. We can all look at the exact same thing and see it very differently, depending on our view. One is neither right, nor wrong, it simply is!

Too often in my therapy practice I would hear couples and individuals question their own perspectives, as if their reality was ‘wrong’ and it needed to be put ‘right’. Not so. What we need to learn is the tolerance of differences that gives breathing room for all our personal realities.

My truth may not be your truth…but it is still Truth.

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

Women, Bodies & Baggage

June 15, 2016

Women’s bodies come with a full set of baggage. We worry about how fat or thin, tight or saggy, tall or short, young or old, beautiful or ugly we are.

It all comes down to our bodies and the relationship we have with it. Whether it’s loving or spiteful we are stuck with it. It is something we are born with and changes with or without our permission over a lifetime. It changes, it grows, it develops, it moves, it gets strong, it gets weak and all manner of things in-between.

So how do you treat this ‘thing’ that holds you up and moves you through the world. Perhaps because of that very fact alone we should learn to like it more.

Here are 8 ways you can take good care of that ‘thing’ you already love, are getting to love or have hated for years.

Like her more by not comparing her to another woman
Feed and water her regularly
Put lotion on her and let her glow
Massage her to help her move with ease
Take her for a walk, bike ride, swim
Sit her down
Let her sleep
Limit the stress and strain you put her under

Showing respect for your body will help you respect your Self and THAT darling, results in you becoming the radiant Queen of Calm, Cool & Collected you were truly meant to be.

With Love, The Burnout Queens xx

Out of tragedy is love

June 14, 2016

The Burnout Queens were taking a lunch break today and saw a video from the Orlando community to the young gay youth of the world. It is beautiful, it is simple, it is pure and it is for absolutely everyone.

Open your hearts and spirit to Love. Watch the video we saw here Orlando message

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

An HSP opinion of being gracious

June 13, 2016

If someone shares their dream, vision, or idea with you and you see they are clearly excited …

What do you do? How do you respond? What do you say?

When I share my enthusiasm about starting a new venture, challenging myself personally, or uprooting my life, I am generally met with great curiosity, support and love from those around me (except my mother of course, but darlings, that’s a whole other story).

I’ve also met those who are shocked that I will do what I say I want to do “Oh, you mean you’re actually going to Do this (incredulous tone required!) and then

I’ve met those who feel the deep need to be negative, warn you and wonder what’s gotten into you lately? (omg, I know someone who hated what you’re about to do). Why must they warn me or save me from my own choices I wonder? Can’t they just be happy for me?

So I have to ask, what is the cost of being gracious, even if their choice isn’t yours?

Here’s my best advice the next time someone shares their hopes and dreams with you…

Think before you share and offer

Grace if you must speak.

In love and support

The Burnout Queens xx

My Boss Bunked Off Work!

June 9, 2016

I have choice at my company. It’s a flexible workplace so if it’s sunny out I can go out and enjoy my day with a mind to work on another day.

Deciding is often easier because I ask the same questions my boss asks. Don’t ask what you should do, but what you want to do.

Decision made.. 2 bosses (hey because I’m one) bunked off work the other day and were found browsing the North Laines (well one had a hair appointment so we made a morning of it). We both love working this way. Then we were back in the afternoon ready to write and create.

This is truly an example of how to ‘think aside’. When we are away from the desk, the minds start to expand and think in a different way. Out of the confines of the office (even if they are beautiful) allows thoughts to come more naturally.

This kind of day…doing something I want…definitely gets the creative juices going (including this post) over coffee and jam doughnuts.

How can you create a ‘thinking aside’ moment in your work life that suits you and your company?

Love, The Burnout Queens, xx