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Burnout Pups have style too!

February 23, 2016

Well, This little miss just turned 6 years old! She has style that’s for sure…she wouldn’t be one of The Burnout Pups if she didn’t. The neck scarf just can’t be worn around the neck, no no no, she’s too creative for that.

If you belong to The Realm of The Burnout Queens you have to be creative and quirky, so any neck attire automatically becomes a scarf. She has seen so many pictures of the real Queen to know her fashion.

Being the little nervous pup she is (a true HSP because they exist in the animal world) the ‘cute’ factor always hides her nerves and hood-winks admirers into thinking she’s very bold. It seems to work for her. Wonder what we can find to hide the nerves and show the boldness we truly possess!

Here’s to the birthday girl and teaching us style can be uniquely bold! xx

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

A gift of love from The Burnout Queens

February 14, 2016

On today of all days, The Burnout Queens want to share the love we send to our members inside The Realm! Each week they receive a special postcard that encourages them to cultivate a better life. And we don’t stop there, they get their weekly assignment to put that concept to good use. Change is happening in such a beautiful way for these women, we just thought today we would reach out to all our community to share this special postcard.

Here’s your copy and if you find it enriching we hope it will entice you to join us. When you register you immediately join a creative group of women from Germany, New Zealand, Australia, United Kingdom, United States, Canada and Brazil, all waiting to welcome you to The Realm! Join us by clicking here: The Realm!

Hello Darlings!

Are you ready to fall in love with yourself? Can you find all your little quirky imperfections endearing? Will you hang on your every word with respect and interest, be absorbed in your dreams, laugh at your own jokes and treat yourself with the same gentleness you would treat another love?

When you fall in love with yourself you open your heart, you listen to your soul and you feel connected to who you truly are. Begin this journey today. Don’t wait to fall in love with yourself ‘if or when’ and definitely don’t wait till Monday to start!

Fall in love with who you are now and not who you would like to be…sometime…when you have time.

Here’s your weekly assignment:

Write yourself a love note, what you admire in yourself, what you love about your looks, your life, your being. How you look forward to your relationship growing and deepening.

Be special to yourself: buy yourself chocolates or your favourite flowers or make your favourite breakfast to leisurely enjoy. Have a bubble bath and love your body. Take yourself to the theatre, read poetry or listen to music that makes your soul soar…or dance!

Draw a Heart, then write your name in it. Paste it on your mirror and then every morning this week go ahead and say it,

“I’m falling in love with you!”

Love, The Burnout Queen xx

Well did you love our special love note? Of course, our members will be sharing their hearts and success inside The Realm in our private facebook group. Can’t wait to see all the photos with creative ‘hearts on the mirrors’ that I know they will share.

We’ll be sharing our hearts, won’t you join us too? (Click here to receive instant membership). Joining The Realm will make your feel special, supported and celebrated by all our members who are actively and I might add impressively enriching their lives.

See you inside and Happy Valentine’s Day from The Burnout Queens xx

Time to take a break when…

February 9, 2016

It was definitely time to take a break…

The Burnout Queens took a week out to drop off the work scene. It was definitely time! If it’s one thing I have learnt over my long career it’s time to take a break when…

I want to stay in bed and pull the duvet up over my head
I want to do anything but sit at my desk
I want to do anything but speak with my dear clients
I want to retire and move to a quiet beach (oh wait I’ve done some of that!)
I find myself crankie at the dogs for everything (even when they are being cute)
I find myself dreading ‘calling home’ to speak to my 99 year old mother
I can’t catch a train to London because of weather or no petsitter (no cultural play makes me very grumpy)
I can’t stand being around people and noise (my Dietrich moments)
I can’t focus for more than a few seconds (unless it’s a puzzle and I’m obsessed)

I’m sure you get the idea. And I’m doubly sure you recognise many of these for yourself! Better to take a break and gather my steam again so that I can be creative, present and enjoyable to be around. Of course, breaks are always announced to clients after looking at the calendar, asking them to change their call dates (seldom do this, but…) and clearing the decks of responsibility.

I’m pleased to say that I didn’t decide to pack a million and one things into 7 days, but I did some very pleasant sightseeing and tea sipping at my leisure. You could say a curative rest. It was a good plan and the feedback from my community says Dr T and I are great role models for taking care of ourselves and not burning out. Well that’s the idea anyway!

Next time you find yourself feeling the same way, take yourself away and rest up. Take it from these 2 docs, “You could just prevent yourself from burning out!”

Love, Dr B (The Burnout Queens) xx

Giving Is Simply Fun

January 26, 2016

This last Christmas, The Burnout Queens decided to add a little sparkle to girls’ and womens’ lives. We decided it’s time to put our Christmas Chaos Campaign into action.

Ladies who read us…and get our philosophy…were asked to purchase our It’s Beginning to Look A Lot Like Chaos video and learn how to create delight in the holidays, instead of dread! As an incentive we decided to send all the proceeds…yes 100% +…to WaterAid to help young girls get an education rather than walking all day to gather water for their village. The purchase + our donation match + UK governments match.

Well…proud to say that we got some lovely hearted women on board and we raised £50.00 for WaterAid. So like all good women after Christmas….we shopped! Here’s what we got with your help, our help and the government’s help: a bag or 2 of cement, enough to build the foundations of a village loo!!

And because a woman can’t just stop at bags, we thought a little red toolkit was the perfect accessory. This red toolkit will fix the water supplies in not 1, but 10 villages.

Now that’s what I call a shopping spree. It was fantastically fun to know that your £2 expanded to give young girls the chance to open a book or two and help her village for the future in a different and important way.

And we hope that those of you who helped in this global way, found some fun and merriment in the suggestions we gave on our latest edition of It’s Beginning To Look A Lot Like Chaos.

Till next year’s campaign kicks off with another offering. Thanks from us to all our Burnout Queen friends. Your generosity is uplifting.

With love, The Burnout Queens xx

Not My Responsibility!

January 22, 2016

Twice this week clients, professional HSP working women, have wanted my opinion about situations that had come up at work and the common denominator…is this my responsibility?

Responsibility is tricky for us highly sensitive (dare I say, oh sure why not since I’m one too!) perfectionistic, over-achieving, and highly ethical and responsible women! You see we have been raised and trained to take responsibility for everything and anything whether it actually is our responsibility or not! And we step up and then we stew about it. Two scenarios:

First one: Client is aware that a colleague is partaking in some pretty unethical behaviour. My client had alerted the owners of the company about this possibility when they hired this other worker – it wasn’t a suggestion to not hire them just to keep an eye on them. Over and over again my client tried to raise the red flag, which was part of her original consultancy responsibility but wasn’t really listened to by the powers that be. This time my client directly addressed the situation with the person who was carrying out this questionable behaviour to be met with a complete ‘who cares!’ attitude. So now she was wondering do I go to ‘the bosses’ with it? Lots of you are probably saying, ‘of course!’ (probably because you are also HSPs full of integrity).

My response…not your responsibility any longer, let it go. They didn’t listen to you before, they are not going to listen now. Take yourself off the hook and don’t enter a contentious situation.

Second situation: Budget! My client, a financial exec, brings forward an invoice of varying tech costs with a whole list of reasons why some should be excluded from these tech consultants. Bosses attitude is “just pay it!” But, but, but…

My response…not your company, his company, you did your job, you raised the issue, you showed him the evidence…pay it, it’s his money!

I’ll probably have lots of people disagreeing with me, even I disagree with me sometimes! However, I also know that our proclivity to take 150% responsibility for things that aren’t ultimately our responsibility gets us into trouble.

Take the steps you need to feel like you can look at yourself in the mirror, know you have done your best, then let it go. You can’t be right, or listened to, all the time. Darn!

Love, Dr Toby (The Burnout Queens)) xx