The Burnout Queens

UK’s leading coaches for woman and burnout

The Motivation Dilemma…Stop Sitting and Waiting!

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Oh how we have come to dread hearing the ‘M’ word!  You know the one…

♦       I have no motivation.

♦       I just can’t get motivated.

♦       I don’t know what will motivate me.

♦       I’ve lost my motivation!  (Quick call search and rescue!)

Oh the motivation dilemma!  If you are waiting to be ‘struck’ by motivation, kind of like lightning, it’s not a good bet given that lightning never strikes twice in the same place!  So much for motivation.  Well, you don’t have to wait for the heavens to part, motivation is in each and every one of us right now, tomorrow, and each and every day after that.  “Great”  you say, “so how do I find it?” (Ahhhhhhhh!)

You don’t find motivation…

You don’t get hit by divine motivation…

You live motivation!

Motivation is in the doing.  Motivation takes commitment and follow-through.  It’s about action.   If you sit and wait for motivation, you could be waiting a very long time, a lifetime even!  Have you got the patience for that?   No, you have to get up and do, get up and try, sometimes over and over again if you want to feel motivated.

Try this…think about something that you have been waiting to be motivated to do.  Now ask yourself,  “Why am I waiting and what exactly am I waiting for?”  Wouldn’t you get more satisfaction and pleasure from actually digging in and doing it?  You certainly would get more results!

You ‘find’ motivation when desire and action share the same path.
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The thing is, if we really want something we usually do it.  For instance,  I want to order-in dinner tonight, no problem with my motivation.  How about taking Friday afternoon off?  I’ve got motivation galore!  So question number one just has to be,

If you absolutely aren’t motivated to act, is it something you truly want to do?

It’s pretty simple, next time you are waiting for motivation to hit, get honest about what you want to do or what the desired outcome is for you.  Then after consideration, you still want to do it, just start.  Take a step NOW.  You will love yourself!  Once you begin to see motivation as a verb rather than a noun the sky is your limit!

Darling, doing is a choice, so get up,get moving and get motivated!

Until Next Time…Grab Life by the Crown!

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Hands Up, Baby Hands Up! (Is Procrastination Your Pink Permission Slip?)

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Do you procrastinate?  Pretty sure that at least 80% of you had hands in the air!  It’s such a great word…it rolls right off the tongue.

I have trouble with procrastinating.

I really have to stop procrastinating!

I can’t help it, I’m a procrastinator!’  (Love that one!)

Lose the psycho-babble and what you’re really doing is postponing, delaying, avoiding, putting-off and neglecting.  Yes, procrastination is your pink permission slip to ‘avoid’ life stuff that you perceive as risky, boring, tedious, fear-provoking, difficult, unknown, or unexpected.  Plainly put…

Postponing is a way of saying NO to your life!
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You may tell yourself that you are putting-off for all the right reasons:  time,  convenience, time, conflict, time, catching-up, time… or even in aid of elusive ‘balance’.  (You’re not.)  When you ‘delay’ doing something because it is  <insert scary word here>  you are actually actively avoiding anxiety, fear, change, as well as failure and (oops!) success.  Beware my darlings!

You can’t ‘put-off’ and live life fully and enthusiastically!

We know it and you know it delaying, putting-off, postponing, avoiding, neglecting, or procrastinating makes a day feel like a struggle.  Most of us  associate ‘procrastination’ with tasks we don’t want to do for whatever reason (and we can be very creative with those!).  Now, here’s where the ‘getting honest’ thing has to happen.  Read the following list, which is by no means comprehensive given how creative we can be with postponing, and then tell us that avoiding or delaying or ignoring doesn’t create chaos and complications in your life.  Here we go:

  • making decisions or choices
  • being late for work, meetings, appointments, or social events
  • billing your clients
  • complimenting someone
  • attending classes
  • not speaking out in class or lecture
  • completing your degree or certification
  • slowing down on a project that is going well
  • taking a vacation
  • taking medication
  • losing weight
  • missing gym sessions
  • visiting, calling, or writing (yes some people still do) family or friends
  • paying bills
  • collecting a debt
  • not calling the doctor, dentist, lawyer
  • not investing
  • not pursuing a career opportunity or promotion
  • not buying a house
  • not divorcing
  • not saving

Whew!  Now do you believe us?  When you put off the big stuff, you are seriously messing with your life.  Even worse, you become disappointed, discouraged and disillusioned with yourself.  Burnout is just around the corner.

Postponing is a way of not giving to yourself.

It’s time for you to stop delaying and show up in your life, crown and all!  That’s what being a Burnout Queen is all about!

Until Next Time…Grab Life by the Crown!

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