Just opened up the mail at The Burnout Queens and found this great message from someone in Texas, USA. A very successful, creative, professional woman!
“Wow, I just found out I am an HSP…Really, thanks for making me feel less crazy…I have been told I was too sensitive, too loud, stop your belly aching and too dramatic all my life. It is exhausting to feel everything all the time.” dp (texa)
The Burnout Queens absolutely love receiving messages like this. And it’s always the same cry…thanks for making me feel less crazy…powerful!
If you are wondering what an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) is, then you need not wonder any longer. Just click through here and watch this short video. It might absolutely change your life!
Thanks dp from Texas. You are what we’re all about!
Since we launched our new website a very few weeks ago we have heard that we actually made burnout “cool, sexy, and funky”! We’ve even had someone tell us that they “wished they were burned-out so they could join the realm!” Great! We love the enthusiasm BUT you definitely don’t have to be flat on your face from burnout to join the Burnout Queens. Not at all! Our biggest hope is that you stop living a burnout lifestyle andprevent yourself from falling flat on your face from burnout. (In fact burnout makes you accident prone so falling flat on your face is more than just a turn of phrase! Would you believe it, one of our lovely Burnout Queens actually did take a dive and broke her beautiful nose!)
If we could pick just one thing from our repertoire that would prevent you from burning out what would we pick? That’s easy! Put yourself Front & Centre in your life. That means you taking you and your life seriously.
We wouldn’t think of implying that you aren’t serious about everything you do in life (some of you even get serious about playing) but really, truly, we know your natural tendency is to make sure that everybody else has everything they need and want before you focus on yourself!
There are too many advantages to count to putting yourself ‘Front & Centre’ in your life, so here’s the crowning glory. When you live from Front & Centreyou will follow your dreams, find your interests, acknowledge your needs, know what you want, choose healthy relationships, and embrace being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).
Sound too good to be true? What’s the catch? (tick, tick, tick…thinking) that’s right, there is none! Life only gets better and better when you choose Front & Centre. The only thing that can get in your way (ok maybe a couple) is listening to other people who actually like you putting them first (I’m sure you all have one or two of these in your life, I know I do) or listening to the Mind Chatter that is going on in your head,( shhh, listen…) “I can’t put myself first I have kids; I’m being selfish; It’s not nice to be self-centred; Who do you think you are? I can’t ask for that, I’ll be a nuisance.” That’s Mind Chatter whispering or shouting at you to get back in line (that would be behind everyone else in your life)! Being Front & Centre means believingin yourself and all of your gifts and strengths. When you do, you will show up BIG TIME in your life…crown and all! That means more you for you, and more you for those other important people in your life. It’s a win all around!
We will be rolling out, red carpet and all of course, plenty of classes and programmes, videos and audios all aimed at upping both your skill and capacity to put yourself Front & Centre in your life. In the meantime, take time to practice your new attitude!
Here’s one great tip!
Visualisation! Imagine a big ballroom and at one end is a gorgeous velvet and gilt throne; make it any colour you want. This is where you need to be, this is where you are headed. It is from this throne that you will direct your life. See yourself walking straight down that red carpet, donning your tiara and taking your seat. Sit tall, settle in and make yourself comfy. You have just taken your first and most important step to banishing burnout! You are Front & Centre in your life.
More often these days I am hearing from VIP clients how teetering on the edge of burnout is accompanied by problematic eating changes and the resultant weight gain.
One client identified eating changes as one of the first symptoms of burnout that emerges for her. She was able to identify this pattern while working through our programme Escape Your Burnout Trap. Each time she was heading into burnout her eating would get out of control and her weight would go up.
Other clients realise after the fact that the exhaustion and constant pressure of difficult work situations led to not taking care of themselves by not grocery shopping or preparing healthy food, not getting to the gym, or relying on take-away foods when leaving the office late at night.
We talk about ‘false cures’ associated with burnout, things we do to fool ourselves into thinking we are ‘feeling better’: drinking more, smoking more, using over-the-counter drugs to sleep amongst a few. I think we better put eating right up there in the top false cures that women use to soothe the tension, stress, and pressure that accompanies burning out.