Seems like those who look on the bright side of life – the optimists – have the edge on attaining a more fulfilling life, while the pessimists risk depression, low achievement, and even physical illness.
Here’s the good news, you too can lose the pessimism and develop an optimistic outlook. The Burnout Queens have 10 ways you can achieve this and they are super simple—it’s the only way we operate!
1.Don’t wait for your attitude to “just change”. If optimism doesn’t come easily to you, you will have to work for it (stop moaning). Just like any training programme it takes dedication and practice to cement that new skill. Now that’s doable ladies!
2.Start paying attention to your mind chatter about yourself. Tune into your inner queen and see what she’s saying about you…you know, those nasty little cutting things you say about yourself to yourself. I’m sure there will be certain trigger times: when you make a mistake (you idiot), when you face a difficult situation (I don’t think I’m up for this), when something doesn’t work out in your favour (typical things never work out for ME), and when you have a disagreement with someone (why don’t I ever say what I’m REALLY feeling).
Write down as many of these thoughts as you can “catch”. We’ve given you a few, but we know you have a laundry list don’t you—after all you exhaust your Burnout Queen self with them constantly!
3.Replace every negative with a positive. Pessimist that you are, you probably won’t want to bother doing this exercise, but it works, so ignore your usual negative message and give it a go. Humour us!
4.Visualize a positive outcome for yourself. Sports psychologists do this all the time with athletes. They see themselves going through the game and winning! Picturing doing what you want helps your brain get familiar with the new behaviour, improves performance, and gives you a positive outcome. Include as many details as posssible
5.Look for the silver lining. As corny as it sounds, finding a worthwhile lesson in every experience is a great habit to form. It certainly cuts down on the day to day stress and can be a real life-saver when those inevitable life crises hit. So take a deep breath, take a step back and look at the bigger picture…what am I meant to learn here? Pure Silver!
So there you have it, our first 5 ways to keep pessimism in it’s proper place. You are a Burnout Queen and deserve the optimism that goes with this!
See you tomorrow for the next 5, and in the meantime….
Grab Life by the Crown (we say optimistically)
The Burnout Queens xx
