Dr Toby | The Burnout Queens

Can’t Keep Your Antlers Straight?

December 17, 2015

Can’t keep your antlers straight?…

You might just be in the Loop! That’s the B-Loop we’re talking about. What’s the B-Loop? Well my dears… B is for Burnout!

The holiday season is defined by stress and pressure: TV ads with sparkling lights and happy happy families, perfect dinners, happy families, mounds of presents, did we mention happy families?!!!

It’s enough to give you the chills! But you are a Burnout Queen so when the pressure hits you get going!

You vow you will..

dig in and push harder
achieve more
write more lists, check them twice (no make that 10 times!)
make double the shortbread
plan the perfect Holiday menu
craft like a crazy lady
buy more lights for the house (the neighbours doubled theirs!)
get more prezzies for the kids, musn’t disappoint
create the perfect decorating scheme
and get a reindeer for the front lawn (note to self make that a real one!)

Don’t look up you’re not done! You…

need to paint the guestroom, (it’s tired)
order the new sofa in time for the neighbourhood party
find the perfect dress for the office party (not too sexy not too prim)
make the Christmas pageant costumes (1 angel, 2 shepherds)
lose the extra weight by the holidays
and love your in-laws by Dec 24!

Welcome to the B-Loop! It’s a slippery slope with or without snow!

Burnout Queens think it’s normal to be in the Loop! We don’t recognise the pattern. Well, now you can! It looks like this…

stress >> dig in >> do more>> achieve less>> stress >>push harder

You live in the Loop with a smile on your face, you make it look easy and no one knows you are skating on thin ice! And because you make it look so easy-peasy everyone just expects you to do it all again…and again…and again…

Next year it will be different! We’ve heard that before, but now it can! Stick with us Darling Burnout Queens and we will show you how to get out of the Loop and stay out!

Join us inside The Realm and see how other women are escaping the Loop. What a gift! (Click here to become a free member instantly)

Until next time…sparkle! Dr Toby, The Burnout Queens xx

Afternoon Tea in The Realm: Defying Ordinary!

November 30, 2015

Just this past Friday, Dr Toby and I (Dr Bev) sat down at the dining table over a pot of tea and macarons (delish) while we filmed a video for our ladies in The Realm!

Our Afternoon Tea in The Realm discussion was…Defy Ordinary and what that means to you.

Half an hour of sipping, chatting, taking questions and sharing really fabulous opinions about how highly sensitive, creative and smart women can start defying ordinary in their own unique ways.

Next month’s topic already picked and it will start the New Year off on a high note. Can’t wait to get our member’s opinions on this one.

If you’d like to join us, membership inside The Realm is free, it’s inspiring, it’s supportive and we’d love you to join us. Your membership begins here: The Realm

See you inside, The Burnout Queens xx

Fed Up & Highly Sensitive to ‘Too’ Phrases

November 24, 2015

Here are some of the Top 14 ‘You’re Too’ phrases Highly Sensitive People hear! We know they drive you crazy, but you’ve been told you’re crazy all you life anyway, right?

‘too’ emotional – ‘too’ shy – ‘too’ intense – ‘too’ serious – ‘too’ moody – ‘too’ neurotic – ‘too’ idealistic – ‘too’ dramatic and oh yeah, let’s not forget the obvious…

You’re Just Too Sensitive!

Of course you’ve heard these all your life. They don’t make you crazy, they just mean you are a highly sensitive person.

At the Burnout Queens we celebrate being Highly Sensitive. We both are and we are NO shrinking violets! Being an HSP means you are strong, bold, creative, quirky, and much more. You have a character that needs to be embraced. Find out what it really means to be highly sensitive and how it affects everything from your identity to your relationships to your career choices: The Burnout Queens, Highly Sensitive

The #1 feedback on this page is…”Thank you, now I know I wasn’t crazy all my life!” Nectar to our ears!

With love, The Burnout Queens xx

Soul Burnout: Being an HSP in Painful Times

November 21, 2015

“What is this world coming to? What has happened to humanity? I don’t understand…”

These days we are hearing these sentiments from oh so many of our Highly Sensitive Burnout Queens. The anger, suffering and pain in the world, the apparent lack of love, the disbelief that human beings can be indifferent to each other, and we would add the way some humans treat animals with such disregard, and let’s not forget our poor planet! Well it makes us all very sad and weary. Sigh…….

Maybe you are experiencing something similar, a sense of disillusionment, a loss of faith in humanity, the feeling that nothing makes sense anymore. And you know, all that makes us feel insecure, kind of nervous, anxious and uneasy. To say it is disappointing is a massive understatement, the international events of the last few weeks leave many of us feeling totally disheartened to say the least!

At times you may feel that there is nothing left to believe in…there is.

We see this as a kind of ‘soul burnout’. When you are Highly Sensitive it can feel like the weight of the world, the pain of the world, resides within you. Sometimes you just don’t know what to do with it and end up feeling powerless and, yes, definitely hopeless. So what can you do?

Well, crowns off to those courageous and bold souls who head off into dangerous places to offer aid and care to both humans and animals in need. My heart swells with joy and gratitude with the knowledge that such brave individuals exist! Then there are the rest of us…

We may not be ready to take a heroic stance, but we can live with Everyday Spirituality. Everyday Spirituality doesn’t have to be big, it doesn’t necessarily encompass grand gestures, it doesn’t even have to be called anything specific with a Capital Letter. We believe that everyone can embace life and live each and every day with meaning and purpose. Oh don’t get all worried about ‘finding your purpose’ (that’s way too heady for us!) all you have to remember is to…

Live your life in the pursuit of compassion, kindness, beauty, understanding and love in your own unique way

Shine your HSP light into the world. Do not live in fear. Always strive for your Highest Dream regardless of how futile it can sometimes feel in this shocking world.

Imagine. Create. Believe.

PS. The BOQs would love to hear from you! Leave your wisdom and comments in the box below.

PPS! Won’t you join The Burnout Queens for Afternoon Tea this month? Exclusive member only event.

The Realm is having an Afternoon Tea Talk on November 30^th, 2015. Dr Toby and Dr Bev will be discussing what it means to Defy Ordinary, how to actually do it, and answer all your questions. It doesn’t matter where you live on the planet, it’s on video so you won’t miss a thing. The video will be viewed online with a private link…but you must be a member to join us.

Ready to create a bigger, better and bolder you? Join us for tea and talk

My Spinning World – life as an HSP

November 18, 2015

Well, I for one am really feeling the stress of world events. The world for this HSP is quite literally spinning around!

Emotions over the past few days have run the gamut through shock, horror, despair, sadness, anger, fear, which all added up to stress. I am most definitely wired to experience the symptoms of stress (and in the past burnout) physically first. Something physical shows up to warn me: a headache, upset stomach, muscle tension, insomnia and this time vertigo!

My world was quite literally spinning for a few hours last night. I know this was a direct result of stress, so I am paying attention and being gentle with myself today. Us HSPs soak up a lot of stress and tension from media coverage of world events; images, sounds, commentary all hit their mark. Remember to take care of yourself and create moments of peace and tranquillity.

Love Dr. T xx

You may also feel stress physically. If so, what are the warning signs that ‘hit’ you first?