You are brilliant Darling! We know it and hopefully you do too! You are brilliant in your own unique and special way. Soooooo… isn’t it time for you to stop trying to prove yourself?

Oh maybe you don’t call it ‘proving yourself’, maybe instead you try to explain yourself, justify your opinion, show you are right, correct misperceptions of you or clear-up misunderstandings about what you said, did, or who you are. Well, in our books that all adds up to ‘proving yourself, but here’s what we know;

Proving yourself to others is mutually exclusive with accepting yourself.
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You will only run yourself into the ground trying to get your… <insert here> boss, mother, father, partner, colleague, sister, teacher, girlfriend, boyfriend… to see your brilliance. Hey, if they don’t get you, they don’t get you. It’s well past time you stopped struggling to get ‘them’ to ‘see’ how brilliant you are, full stop. You are the one who needs to know you are the jewel in your crown!

Here’s the Burnout Queen’s royal command! Stop trying to prove you are ok! It’s that or waste your energy trying to get ‘them’ to see the error of their ways. It’s such an empty victory though when you are too exhausted to enjoy your own celebration dance! Seriously, do you want to be ‘right’ or do you want to be <insert here> happy, well, powerful, successful, peaceful, energetic… the choice is in your hands.

Constantly trying to prove, justify or explain yourself dulls your brilliance and diminishes your power.

Owning who you are, crown straight or jauntily tilted as per your style, is absolutely essential if you want to escape your burnout trap. Then, and only then, can you live with the freedom, creativity and peace of mind that comes from living in perfect harmony with your absolutely fabulous HSP nature.

Listen, we totally get it, we are in it with you! We hate to be misunderstood, taken wrong, doubted or under-estimated (that one really gets our goat!) and… we certainly want people to know that we know what we are doing. We also know that it’s impossible to shine with brilliance when you are exhausted. Believe us,

A lifetime of proving yourself gets you nowhere but exhausted.
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It comes down to a choice, ‘proving’ yourself to the world or trusting yourself. No more explaining or justifying. You need to start right now, today, trusting your decisions, your choices, your beliefs, your feelings, your ideas, your opinions, your abilities, your skills, your competence, your intelligence, your life experience and your intuition.

So start polishing that crown and wear it with your own amazing style. Then and only then will you begin to see and appreciate the gem you truly are.

Here’s one great tip:

Develop your repertoire of one-liners to use in all those situations that normally have you doing that thing…you know proving yourself! Practice these frequently so you get comfortable with them. Look in the mirror and say them out loud. Try them on:

“Thanks for sharing.”

“Sounds like a plan.”

“I’ll consider that.”

“Thanks but I pretty much have this one sorted.”

“You could say that, I couldn’t possibly comment!”

Your turn…get creative and dream up your perfect comeback!

Until next time…Grab Life by the Crown!