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The Big Leap times 10 years!

July 3, 2019

From Here to There!

We just cannot believe it has been a full decade that we left our home and country. Last evening we were sitting in the Vancouver International Airport saying ‘shouldn’t we be nervous, or sad, or something?’ We weren’t, we were just quietly waiting for our one-way ticket to our new destination in life.

Brave or stupid? Just feels right. We had sold our condo, money in the bank, said good-bye to family, friends, neighbours and clients (although some would stay with us over skype), all our belongings except our luggage was packed into a container enroute across Canada to board a boat heading east!

A big leap of faith was starting to really happen.

I vividly remember looking out the window of the plane as we took off, looking back at my neighbourhood (we climbed right over it) and thought…’I don’t know what will happen or how it will turn out, but I’m open to whatever transpires’.

A long sleep, a beautifully calm flight and we landed in our new homeland. The customs woman looked at our passports and VISAs and said, ‘welcome home‘. Just such a deeply happy moment we had both waited for for the last 4 decades. You couldn’t wipe the smiles off our faces, even after the 10 hour flight and time-change.

So it’s official. We live in England and over the next 10 or so days in honour of these 10 years, we’ll give you a peek at the life we set up and are living from then until now (warts, pups and all)!

In the meantime…..

HAPPY 10th ANNIVERSARY TO THE BOTH OF US!

Crack open the books

June 26, 2019

What better time than summer to crack open the books you’ve longed to read all year long. The days are long, the pace is summer-slow, and the time is yours to catch up on yourself.

The Burnout Queens believe in the power of knowledge. With our psychology degrees, our coaching expertise, and a specialty in womens’ issues, we wanted to share just a few books that will help you jump any life hurdles and open you up to even more personal growth.

Here are a few of our ‘must reads’ to get you started.

Excuses Begone! (Dr. Wayne W. Dyer)
Be Happy. (Robert Holden, Ph.D.)
Quiet. (Susan Cain)

Happy Reading darling.

Dr Toby Silverton & Dr Bev McLagan aka…The Burnout Queens xx

Stop Overwhelm and Embrace Life!

June 7, 2019

Are you feeling ‘overdone from overdoing’? Did I hear a big ‘YES’ from you? Then darling, you are OVERWHELMED and that won’t be a surprise to you.

When we’re overwhelmed we just want to sit down and throw our hands up in the air…give up…and hope tomorrow will be better than it feels right now. I’m sure you can relate.

In our podcast today, Dr T is talking about OVERWHELM, giving you insight into

what overwhelm actually is (not what you think)
what happens to you when you’re overwhelmed (anxiety, getting stuck and experiencing a brain drain)
how to offset your overwhelm

The Burnout Queens’ podcast OVERWHELM GEMS give you 7 Gems that are pretty darn simple to put into motion and reap you big results.

Stop the Overwhelm and Embrace Life!

Love, Dr Toby & Dr Bev (The Burnout Queens)

Am I Burnt Out?

February 15, 2019

AM I BURNT OUT?

I am struck by how many women these days easily say, “oh I’m just so burnt out”. Sadly, I believe it’s a statement most of us seem to relate to in this fast-paced world today. Many of our clients come to us feeling down, depleted, and utterly overwhelmed…and you guessed it, they all say, I think I might be burning out.

What is this thing called Burnout?

We often ask people, ‘do you really know what burnout is’. We hear a variety of common responses some accurate, some not. Bottom line, if the information is not correct women don’t seek help and things get worse. It’s the way Burnout takes hold.

When people hear you say you’re burned out, they usually reply that everyone is stressed. If you think you are suffering from burnout and hear this, you walk away feeling foolish and inept for making a fuss, even though you feel about to drop from exhaustion.

Others talk about ‘being burned out’ in a manner that sounds like a fad or trend or something ultra-light. They are the ones who seemingly act like the ‘every-ready bunny’ and keep going, hardly skipping a beat. It makes it hard to believe they feel like you do, because you are struggling to keep up with everything. So you lie awake wondering what’s wrong with me that I can’t cope.

This would be a good moment to give Burnout some serious thought. What is it really and what does it look and feel like. The best medicine is to arm yourself with proper knowledge so that you can make decisions in aid of your well-being.

The Burnout Queens have put together this Simple Symptom Checklist for Burnout to help you identify whether or not you are burning out. See if you recognise any of the emotional, physical and mental changes for yourself.

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Don’t dismiss your feelings and emotions. If it’s just stress it can’t be that bad, right? And if it’s really bothering you that much you must be depressed, right? Perhaps not.

Burnout is not stress and it’s not depression, although you just might ‘feel’ depressed and stressed when you keep trying to juggle all your responsibilities and never feel you get enough reprieve to feel well. If you are burnt out you keep trying to ‘keep going’, but with depression you just want to hide under the duvet forever!

Let’s nip burnout in the bud. Start by downloading our Simple Symptom Checklist for Burnout. This is the best and simplest way to check if you are actually burning out.

If you love downloading, you will love our Learn From Us page. Feel free to save and read as many of our resources that you think will help on your road to living a burnout-free lifestyle.

To your health!

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

What if your workplace is toxic?

July 24, 2018

What is a toxic workplace and how will I know if mine is toxic?

The Burnout Queens love to share good articles and this is a good article in Inc.com (Marcel Schwantes) based on solid research out of Harvard.

The article titled 5 signs of a toxic workplace that should be stopped immediately (Inc.com magazine), summarises who toxic workers are and what they do that is so counter-productive to the company and their workers.

“much has been written about hiring and developing top performers in the workplace, but less attention has been paid to the effects of toxic workers on their organizations. [toxic] workers are not low-functioning or low-status employees…[they]are talented and productive….”

Here are this article’s 5 signs of a toxic office.

Gossip is spreading
Morale is at an all-time low
Managers are dictators not leaders
The human touch is lost
Health issues and absenteeism are on the rise

These are just some of the situations our Executive Clients find themselves in, many of them disheartened by their company culture, disillusioned by an absent listening leadership. Others grapple with questioning whether they should stay or take the opportunity to leave and place themselves in their dream career move. This all leads to low morale and possibly burnout, which has a knock-on effect on many leaders, teams, executives and ultimately erodes the company’s bottom-line.

Read the full article and get really honest with yourselves. Next step? Implement healthy, rather than punitive change. To ignore and keep following the same path is to risk losing your most talented to the competition.

The step after that? Get in touch (www.livethesolution.com) . We coach Highly Sensitive Executives in these situations all the time and they learn to thrive.