Putting the finishing touches on our newest project. The good news, it’s a members club, it’s launching very soon, you’ll get an invite, it’s full of fantastic value and life-changing info, it’s got The Burnout Queens live and online, and….
it’s absolutely FREE!
THE REALM! Where smart, creative & sensitive women begin to Defy Ordinary.
We can’t wait to have you join us as we journey from Burnout to Balance to Bliss! See you inside The Realm! very soon.
The Burnout Queens xx
You are brilliant, Darling! We know it and you know it. You sparkle in your own unique way. But sadly, the brilliance of your brilliance isn’t always appreciated! In fact, it is often misunderstood and sometimes, well sometimes, it just goes unnoticed! Now that’s a royal pain!
Now you could just recline on a chaise lounge, despairing about why the world doesn’t understand you, or you could read our three simple answers to why you may need to pack-up your brilliance and move on! Are you ready?
#1 – Creative, quirky, sensitive types can’t thrive in environments that don’t get us.
Sometimes the environments you choose to work or live in are unsupportive, plain and simple. When you try to survive in environments that don’t appreciate your HSP nature you eventually begin to feel diminished or less than. Seriously, if this is the case, you need to have a good honest conversation with yourself. Have you ended up in an environment (office, group of friends, relationship) where your brilliance isn’t appreciated, goes unnoticed, gets ignored, is made fun of, or put down? Your surroundings can make you feel like you need to hide the best of you. You know, an environment like this can actually get to the point of feeling hostile. No, my loves, you are not imagining it.
So if you are in an environment where it feels like your intelligence, senses, and emotions are becoming dulled, then it’s time to take your brilliance where it can be freely expressed. You deserve to find places in the world that nourish your sensitivity and creativity.
Seek places that are open to your strengths, talents, gifts, humour, love of beauty, and unique world view.
You need environments where you can be true to who you are. You definitely want to spend your life in places that reflect your values and beliefs. If you are to feel respected and honoured you need to know that others benefit from, enjoy, and value your uniqueness.
#2 – Hey, if they don’t get you, they don’t get you.
Sometimes people don’t appreciate your brilliance. Actually, some people are unnerved by it or threatened by it! Oh we know you may not believe that, but it’s true, you are often perceived as powerful whether you know it or not!
We know you are naturally inclined to keep trying to get your <insert here> (boss, mother, father, partner, colleague, sister, teacher…) to ‘see’ your brilliance, to see things from your perspective, to accept your novel approach to things. But seriously, what a waste of time and energy! Constantly trying to explain yourself only tarnishes your brilliance. “If they just understood me everything would be fine.” They won’t. So (excuse our bluntness darling) but time to…
Stop selling your soul. Stop trying to get ‘them’ to see the errors of their ways.
When you continue to attempt to scale this wall you only increase your own stress. You are never going to persuade them, prove to them, get them on-side, or ‘help’ them to see things from your point of view. Sorry, but they don’t want to, they aren’t able to, they are simply not there with you! And, you know what, that’s ok.
You have a choice to make, you can stay in that ‘old’ place of proving your genius or you can pack-up. We just want you to know that as long as you stay stuck in that struggle you are a single pirouette away from creating your own burnout.
#3 – Admit it! You hide your brilliance.
Indeed, you sometimes go to royal lengths to hide your brilliance. Well, my dears, it’s time to show-off your strengths, successes and achievements. Now relax we’re not saying you need to get all diva-ish or braggy, not at all, we know that would make you uncomfortable. You see, somewhere along the way you became more comfortable letting others see your less than powerful points. But seriously, where does that get you? Only to the place you fear the most; boredom, tedium, and dullness. That is no place for a Burnout Queen!
Darling it’s high time you get your crown out and start polishing because you are ready to show the world just how much you can sparkle! If you keep hiding who you are, you will eventually begin to feel diminished and you may even start believing that you are dull! AND, this could simply never be the case!
You know, it’s perfectly alright to appreciate the times you are afraid to let your brilliance show. You may temporarily feel afraid of what will be asked of you, afraid you are not ‘up to the job’, maybe afraid you have been kidding yourself about your brilliance all these years, that you are, well…oh let’s just say it, a fraud!
You know, it’s o.k. to be afraid as long as you don’t let that stop you.
What are you waiting for? If you aren’t going to show the world how much you have to offer, who is?
It may take a little getting used to, but the next time someone says to you ‘How do you do it all?’ You simply answer, “Extremely well!” When someone asks, ‘How are you today? Your answer…
“Brilliant!”
It’s time to take your brilliance where you can let it shine!
Until Next Time…Grab Life by the Crown!
P.S. The BOQs would love to hear from you! Leave your wisdom and comments in the box below.
It’s the first of August and where we live it’s the biggest Pride Parade in the UK (160,000 people) and we’ve never seen a pride parade before, so off we went to snap a few shots, watch the fun and samba. But…
A FUNNY THING HAPPENED WHILE WAITING FOR THE PARADE…
There we were on the corner, across from the seafront. Camera in hand we were perfectly positioned to enjoy the parade and snap away. Here’s the all important shot that we didn’t realise would change our morning really fast! You see (and I mean look for yourself) across the street there are 2 crowd stewards behind a street post. As they were there, a police motorcyclist arrived to help with the parade advancing. We saw the steward cross and say something to the officer and he went over and looked up at the sign as well. (strange we thought…these highly sensitive minds were attentive)
The policeman came back to his bike, radioed the ‘sergeant that they’d found something (this is NOT good news). Dr T turned to me and said, we should move, something’s not right. Off we went down the road, after noticing a small wireless transmitter strapped to the signpost!
So a few hundred yards down the road, we stood as more motorcycle police arrived…we moved even further down and across the road so that we could make a hasty exit up the street if need be. Then everyone was being told to move back from the area and the parade was halted in it’s tracks. We just looked at one another…
…you know living in this beautiful country has made our North American it’s-too-far-away brains become more aware of the nearness of danger on the streets. We decided it wasn’t worth the risk (who would look after The Burnout Pups) and if we were far enough away from a possible blast, neither of us wanted to experience the horror of seeing injuries and rescues.
So, we decided (and this is where I love that we are decisive) off to enjoy a poached eggs on toast breakfast. If nothing came of this then we would be wimpish, but alive. If something happened, we were safely wimpish! Our first attempt at a large crowd event in the UK and we ‘almost’ experienced it…but wait
After breakfast we walked back down to the beach and saw the parade still waiting to begin. A few questions later and we found out a package had been found and the army bomb squad had come and blown it up. The significance of this is, we were standing in the crowd a few feet in front of this package when we noticed the device on the post across the street!
We don’t know what to think, or how to react. But…
As we walked home, along came the police closing the street because the parade has now been re-routed to come our way. All is not lost. We had front row position while the bands blasted fantastic club music.
We have snapshots, we had fun and best of all, we arrived home safe and sound. We can’t thank that parade steward enough for her outstanding call for help…and the poached eggs were delish as well.
The very things we have stayed away from (large crowd gatherings) for the exact reason (bomb threats) is now part of our reality. When we moved for adventure, this is not what we had envisioned, but there you have it. One morning in the life of The Burnout Queens! xx
I was nose deep in the Oxford dictionary (a childhood habit I still secretly indulge in) looking up a word that I and many other HSPs frequently use, and that word is DRUDGERY. Most often it is used in association with work. However, I was thinking how sometimes that same feeling of drudgery goes beyond work, way beyond a job. There have been times in my life when I felt like I was drowning in drudgery! So what is going on when LIFE starts feeling like drudgery? Here’s the dictionary scoop on drudgery…
Drudgery refers to dull and hard work. Yes, that simple. I admit I was expecting more. Now, I’m confused. You see I don’t mind hard work and occasionally I even relish dull work (it gives my overactive brain a rest, like folding socks). No, drudgery doesn’t quite capture the experience of feeling like someone has turned the lights out on your life. Back to my old friend Oxford!
Now here’s a word, TRUDGE: to walk with slow and heavy steps. Yes, that definitely describes what some days feel like when you are not enjoying life, but simply going through the motions. Life definitely feels like this when you are in the process of burning out. (I used to describe this feeling as walking through wet cement). Then it hit me!
It’s TRUDGERY!
Trudging is existential. When I am trudging I am lost. I am caught in the minutia of life. One day blurs into the next. I’m exhausted and totally unsatisfied. I am just doing and don’t know why. (Hmmm, sounds a lot like burnout!) I don’t know where I’m going, I have no idea why I’m going, but I’m going. The thing about trudgery, you can be fully in motion and still feel meaningless.
“Sorry don’t have time to sit down and think about where I am going, you see I’m trudging.” Trudge trudge trudge… Next stop, burnout.
Right, now I’m going to confuse you even more! (Never let me loose in a dictionary!) Seriously I can’t even remember why this word jumped out at me, but it did and behold it made perfect sense. REDEEM. Now there were a few variations on this theme, but one made total sense: to regain possession of something in exchange for payment. BINGO!
We have been “trudging towards redemption!” Walking with slow and heavy steps through the dull and the mundane (don’t forget tedious!) in order to regain possession of something which you have come to believe you are paying for day in and day out with monotony, boredom, lack of enthusiasm, loss of energy and ultimately with what feels like selling your soul! And in this moment of enlightenment we have our solution. Right here right now we are writing off your debt!
You don’t have to ‘make payment’ for who you are, how you live your life, the work you want to do, your creative soul, or just being YOU!
Say it out loud, “ I will not trudge through my life. My days of trudging are over. (We can’t hear you! Louder!) My days of trudging are history!
We know that sometimes it’s ‘easier’ to trudge than to be all paid-up and ready to move on. “Oh no, move on where?” You don’t need to know where right now, or even how. You just need to know that deciding not to trudge is a one time decision that is yours to make.
Swearing off trudging is one of those big life U-turns! In an instant everything is different.
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Oh, we know it’s not always that simple and it doesn’t automatically mean your relationship will get an instant make-over or your job won’t be drudgery come Monday, but it really isn’t as complex as you think. Here’s what you need to do…
Each and every morning when your feet hit the floor, recommit to your present and your future. Remind yourself that you will no longer ‘trudge towards redemption’.
Don your crown, are you ready? The Burnout Queens declare! You are redeemed. No more trudging.
You are free NOW to defy ordinary!
Until Next Time…Grab Life by the Crown!
P.S. The BOQs would love to hear from you! Leave your wisdom and comments in the box below.
