One of the things that leads to burnout faster than a snap-of-a-finger is being in a lousy-fit job! Many of us have been there at one time or another in our working careers (I know I sure have).
How do you know if you are in a lousy fit job? Easy Darling!
- You feel exhausted before you even start your day.
- You wake up with Monday Blues or butterflies in your stomach.
- Your gut tells you that work shouldn’t feel this way.
- You feel trapped and stuck.
- You find yourself close to tears at times.
- You fantasize about strangling your boss.
- You are close to giving-up on finding ‘work’ that makes your heart and soul sing.
So what happens when you keep finding jobs that cause blisters like a bad pair of sandals?
You feel miserable! You feel like you are failing. You even feel embarrassed when you try to explain to others just how bad work feels. Oh the memories of trying to explain how unfulfilling work was only to hear some variation of “but it’s a good job!”. Super, terrific, fabulous for someone else, anyone else, but me!
Being stuck in a lousy fit job is soul destroying for creative, intelligent and sensitive Burnout Queens!
We stay in lousy fit jobs for many legitimate reasons like paying bills (that’s a big one), not knowing what else to do, not having support or encouragement to chase your dream, or ending up there because you were young and hadn’t figured it out and with time you got stuck. There is one reason that trumps them all, not believing you have the right to pursue work that brings you meaning, satisfaction, and fulfillment.
Now, we can say quite confidently that some of you will have a track record of changing jobs every 2-3 years (I know my hand is raised) and we congratulate you on your unending optimism, no sarcasm intended. It takes optimism to keep trying. You seriously believe that if you could just find the ‘right’ job all of your dissatisfaction, disappointment, and exhaustion would fade and you would find the happiness that you know intuitively should come from work.
It is so discouraging to start a new job with every best intention, sure that this one will be better than the last, they will ‘get’ you, you won’t be bored, only to find in 3 months the lustre is wearing off. With each new job that doesn’t work out your disappointment deepens, you feel disillusioned, worn-out, depressed, & even physically sick.
I was stuck in lousy-fit jobs for so many years that the end result was migraines, depression, even ulcers. Finally I got savvy, gained courage, and changed directions, after I had figured out that it wasn’t me that was ‘the misfit’, it was the work environment that was a bad fit. (Ok, it took some hours ‘on the couch’ to figure this out, but I have never, ever looked back.) It’s time for you to get bold and brave, because…
Any job, regardless of title or salary, can be ‘just a job’ if it’s a bad fit for you.
We could share case study after case study of highly sensitive, intelligent and creative women who went from lousy-fit jobs or careers to pursuing work that had ‘the sparkles’ for them. Their life work: work that feels meaningful, purposeful, engaging, challenging, and creative.
Look, we’ve been there and done that (over and over again) but you don’t have to! Stop listening to your inner critic that tells you all number of things from “it’s too late to change” to “it’s work, it’s not supposed to be fun” and start listening to the voices (you can count on us!) that say you can absolutely change it!
Here’s what you need to do Darling…
- Make a list of all the reasons (yes, even the embarrassing ones) why you do not deserve a ‘good-fit’ job. Now’s not the time to hold back.
- Then blow those excuses up one at a time! Destroy the ‘reasons’ you tell yourself you are not worthy of a job that makes you fulfilled. (A little daydreaming or fantasizing work wonders with this step!)
So, we are in agreement, no more blisters ‘cause the time is now for you to stop settling for that lousy-fit job.
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