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Huffington Post has published our article about the 4 Emotional Themes that keep us stuck, struggling and frustrated. See if you can relate….and
Thanks HuffPost Lifestyle section. We love the collaboration.
Enjoy the read.
The Burnout Queens xx
We are WOMEN and it is in our DNA to juggle all balls at once (while keeping our manicure perfect). We aren’t supposed to get overwhelmed, no no no, we are supposed to handle it all cooly.
Well, we were going along smoothly, everything on track …then the dog got sick! That meant no sleep, we mean NO sleep. Oh well, life happens. Dog is now A-OK but in the meantime our schedule went to (excuse the pun) the dogs!
So, here’s a “Vintage Burnout Queens” newsletter that really hits the mark!
Royally Overwhelmed??? Get a manicure.
In the past we would have hidden being overwhelmed and attempted to look like we were handling it all effortlessly. Those days are done! We admit it, we own it, this IS royally overwhelming!
So why on earth as women do we fall victim to the epic myth that we should be unbothered and unflappable? In other words, we should never get overwhelmed because, after all, that means (wait for it!) we can’t cope! Well, it’s all in the training to be a Burnout Queen!
I don’t know about you, but when I got overwhelmed as a little girl, it would be tears and stomping, pouting and sulking, or maybe throwing a ‘hissy fit’. Although incredibly annoying or embarrassing for Mum, it was completely appropriate as a kid’s coping style. Unfortunately, and maybe for you as well, expressing my overwhelm as a child would herald responses like: “You are ‘too’ emotional and too sensitive; stop whining and whingeing; you’re being a cry-baby, or a ‘princess’ (good for me on the way to becoming a Queen!) or you are being overly dramatic”. I regularly heard, “Surely it’s not that bad”. Well yes sometimes it was!
Here’s the Burnout Queen’s declaration!
There is absolutely nothing uncool with getting overwhelmed!
Whether from too many changes, too many decisions, too many details to juggle, too many emotions, competing timelines or deadlines or multiple life problems, there is nothing wrong with being overwhelmed. Au contraire, it takes strength, confidence, and personal power to acknowledge and accept that there are times when it all just gets to you.
Being overwhelmed simply means you are being temporarily bombarded by ‘too’ many feelings and thoughts all at once. It doesn’t mean you are weak, incompetent, stupid, unable to cope, or a personal failure.
Getting overwhelmed simply means you’re human.
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Keep these few things in mind the next time you feel overwhelmed…there will be a next time, it’s natural.
Remember, you are strong, directed, highly creative and sensitive. You care deeply about your life, you take things seriously and you want to get it right. It’s just that sometimes you can’t, but it’s not you… it’s life. From time to time this means being overwhelmed and that can feel decidedly uncool.
At times fear, pressure or time overshadows clarity, but you are a Burnout Queen and that means that you will find the most creative, ‘uniquely you’ solution to whatever challenges life throws your way. In the meantime…
Here’s one great tip:
Stand up, declare it and own it! I’m overwhelmed! Now, while you are still standing…Eat chocolate, go shopping, and get a manicure! (How did that get there?)!
What’s New
The Burnout Queens ‘Essential Classes’ are being launched! Each one is a great addition to your resource library, not to mention your sanity! First up…
Get the Skinny on Burnout!
Are you ready to take your first step towards living a burnout-free lifestyle?
Well, creative-one, this is exactly where you need to start! Our fabulous and super-reasonable 3-video ‘essential’ class is your fundamental step to becoming a Burnout Queen…strong, resilient, enthusiastic and powerful.
What’s not to love about that!
Read about it here: https://theburnoutqueens.com/get-the-skinny-on-burnout/
Next class waiting in the wings: Have You Been Raised & Trained to Burn Out? (What do you think…have you?) Watch for an announcement shortly.
Until next time…Grab Life by the Crown!
We just love the Lifestyle section of Huffington Post because they understand the impact Burnout has on women and how it impacts all aspects of their lives. We all think you have to be super-uber-busy to burn out, but in fact not performing to your potential can be just as detrimental. The Burnout Queens’ latest article published in Huffington Post’s Lifestyle section hits this topic perfectly. We call it Flatlining.
See if you agree:
An April publication of our hits Huffington Posts UK Lifestyle section. If you tend to procrastinate, then this is a great little article to let you know your burnout is just around the corner! Yuck!
Here’s the Huffpost link: If You’re Putting Off Reading This Then ‘Procrastination’ is Your Middle Name!
Enjoy the read. xx The Burnout Queens
ps: Thanks HuffPost for the support.
Remember that song, “A little bit country/A little bit rock ‘n roll” (Has the earth stopped spinning ‘cause I never thought I’d be quoting Donny & Marie!). Well just so happens these lyrics capture the dilemma many HSPs find themselves in when trying to pin down their style of living or design an environment that captures everything that they want and who they are.
We constantly hear, “I should make up my mind, I need to decide, I must have a ‘split personality’, I always want what I can’t have!” (Or variations on those themes!) Well we just don’t see it that way! In fact, this kind of duality very much informed our latest move from London to the seaside city of Brighton (frequently referred to as London by the sea). We say…
Don’t ignore your complexity, push your desires aside or question your unique diversity…embrace it all!
Think mix-and-match!
Really…is it possible? You bet! You do have to know who you are, what you want, what creates a buzz for you, what chills you out… then you have to believe, be bold and be brave! And when you do you will find an equilibrium at the intersection of the duality that appeals to your own unique temperament.
Personally, we could never tire of London (have you heard the saying by Samuel Johnson ‘to be tired of London is to be tired of life’?). However, as much as we love the energy of the city, it can also be exhausting. We really thought we had found that ‘intersection of duality’ in our North London urban village, but ‘city creep’ was happening: the traffic was worsening, noise, pollution and crime in the area were increasing and people were becoming more stressed, angry and unfriendly! We had waited years to live in this city but it was time to move on; we just knew it in our gut! (You know when you live mindfully as an HSP intuition and your gut rarely steer you wrong.)
We were looking for a peaceful, practical way of living but one that is flush with style, vibrancy and energy! Could it be done? Sure but you have to know what you want, what you need, where you are willing to add or subtract (reject the word compromise, otherwise known as ‘settle’), which all adds up to allowing the unexpected while grounding yourself in the expected.
What we wanted was a little urban/a little village, a little luxurious/with a little simplicity, elegant but quirky and lots of creativity with a balance of practicality. Instead of opting for another neighbourhood or suburb of London we chose a new city just a 50 minute rail commute from London. A seaside city that is cool, quirky, buzzy (oh can it be buzzy), creative, friendly, architecturally beautiful and of course…SEASIDE!
Daily life in a fabulous place with London as our nearby playground! We have the sea (complete with fabulous views from the new place), beautiful parks, a meditation centre set in gorgeous gardens at the top of the street, cafes and tea shops galore, shopping is around the corner and can be as creative as you want given all the artists and entrepreneurs that live here. It has this amazing combination of regal and vintage, elegance and camp! Notice that word ‘compromise’has drifted into oblivion.
Many HSPs are confounded by their style of living dilemma. Many of us are in fact “a little bit country/a little bit rock’n roll”! Go ahead, try it, play with the idea of a ‘mix-and-match lifestyle’. Figure out what you know and what you expect and then add a heaping dose of the unexpected!
The life you imagine is the life you CAN live!
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It’s time for you to defy ordinary… to live, love and express all that fabulous uniqueness that spells Y*O*U!
Here’s one great tip:
Colour outside the lines…don’t even use a piece of paper, choose a blank wall! Then get sticky-notes (why didn’t we buy shares, groan!), 2 differing styles ‘cause this is about embracing your duality: leopard print for the bold you and lilac ones for the ‘meditative’ you.
One desire, want or need to a sticky. For example: great cafes, art galleries, nature walks, good transportation, …be really creative/be really practical, just don’t censor yourself!
Let your style emerge. Whether you are re-styling your career, apartment, or total environment, this is a great tool to begin living at the intersection of your duality.
What’s New
The Burnout Queens ‘Essential Classes’ are being launched! Each one is a great addition to your resource library, not to mention your sanity! First up…
Get the Skinny on Burnout!
Are you ready to take your first step towards living a burnout-free lifestyle?
Well, creative-one, this is exactly where you need to start! Our fabulous and super-reasonable 3-video ‘essential’ class is your fundamental step to becoming a Burnout Queen…strong, resilient, enthusiastic and powerful.
What’s not to love about that!
Read about it here: https://theburnoutqueens.com/get-the-skinny-on-burnout/
Next class waiting in the wings: Have You Been Raised & Trained to Burn Out? (What do you think…have you?) Watch for an announcement shortly.
Until next time…Grab Life by the Crown!