Burnout

The experience of living with burnout and exhaustion for professional, creative and highly sensitive women

Left out of the party…create your own!

office celebrationLast night I was talking with my VIP clients who are designers.  They were feeling left out…

When design projects finish for a launch, these designers are never included in the after-party to celebrate the property development’s success….WWWWHHHATTT!  I couldn’t believe my ears.  Their design showroom is what ‘sells’ prospects on the building.  I have never heard anyone purchase an apartment/flat/condo stating I bought it for the empty box I walked into!!!!

I’ve seen their designs, they are beautiful and I would want to purchase the designed flat fully furnished!

So we all agreed

It’s frustrating to be left out of the high-5-ing moments, the slap-on-the-back congratulations for a job well done.  It is so important to be acknowledged for your creativity (especially when creativity is so personal), so we decided if you aren’t invited to the party, make a party for yourselves and your design team.

Now these two are creative and clever, so with invoices still outstanding to them (therefore little funds for a party) my suggestion of a picnic in the office complete with blanket on the floor and champagne was welcomed with open arms.  I knew I struck gold when I heard the giggles at the end of the international call line!

A ritual celebrating the end of a project, passing an academic thesis, or anything you have poured your blood, sweat and tears into from inception to reality is certainly worth a meaningful gesture of celebration.  Success needs acknowledging.

Well done design divas.  Enjoy the picnic and toast your success.  You deserve it!

Love, The Burnout Queens xx

 

Hello from Brighton & London!: 7 May 2016

Well April was full of ups and downs for The Burnout Queens and Pups both weather-wise and personally.  Yet another rain and wind storm (some might call it a hurricane) of 100 mile per hour gusts that hit early April really delivered a punch.  The plants fell over on the roof terrace, the windows rattled, and of course it came ashore in the middle of the night!   We decided to check out the aftermath when the sun came out next day and  could not believe our eyes…the waves rolled the beach rocks up and over the promenade (and believe me some of those stones were rocks) and apparently uprooted several of the cute beach huts as well!

pic #1 b the storm

pic #2 t the storm

 

Day trips were off  thanks to unrelenting tube and rail strikes.  We were beached seaside (didn’t this happen a couple of months ago?!)…and that’s when April turned very different…

One week into the month and things started to unravel.  First, we had shocking news that a London friend and her dog were missing (Helen Bailey and Boris)! You only read about these things, but it has had our minds whirling all over the place.  We just keep holding onto hope.

pic #3 lean together

A few days later, the youngest Burnout Pup jumped onto the front steps and clipped her chin so hard she dislodged one of her teeth.  Off to the vet she went and returned minus 3 bottom front teeth!  Recouperation on the couch (milked it) and a visit from the tooth fairy made for a happy puppy.  The  following week we found ourselves rushing the other BP off to the vet emergency after a sleepless night.  Blood tests, pain meds, zonked dog and misdiagnosis had us all exhausted and spent!  Of course he needed his reward too, so he got his picture taken in his dapper sweater (honestly, you have to laugh, they are such divas).

pic #4 the patient

pic #5 the tooth fairy

 

pic #6 dapper dachs

No moments of fun, excitement and curiosity seeking, but we don’t call ourselves The Burnout Queens for nothing.  When upheaval hits, we know first-hand what gets us through the mess and out the other side.   We just have to hold onto our humour, our rituals and look for small signs of sanity and stability in our everyday.  For that Mother Nature always delivers.

pic #7 beauty in garden

pic #8 rituals

 

As I write this, April is over and we are getting back on our feet, focusing on new projects at work, and finding moments in the sunshine to just chillax!

Can’t wait for summer!

Love,

The Burnout Queens | Dr Toby and Dr Bev

PS:  If you’ve decided it’s time to defy ordinary and make some changes this spring, come join us inside The Realm!  Our global women’s club is expanding each month, (this month Netherlands and Norway) so it’s never too late to get acquainted.  Register for your instant membership here:  https://theburnoutqueens.com/the-realm/

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